
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,93Please respect copyright.PENANAKPZG9otq68
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,93Please respect copyright.PENANAPxz7HniIkr
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。93Please respect copyright.PENANApS1omBdfM6
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,93Please respect copyright.PENANA8deQPwDUlo
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,93Please respect copyright.PENANADlOAsxstfO
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,93Please respect copyright.PENANABbvJUhXLeC
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。93Please respect copyright.PENANAgl00KJzhr6
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,93Please respect copyright.PENANAwWQ8xwsKPj
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。93Please respect copyright.PENANAkc0izKJ8Jm
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。93Please respect copyright.PENANAIJGXVA5Y3l
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那隻驢子本來不用死,93Please respect copyright.PENANAz483FYNxG4
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。93Please respect copyright.PENANAPHeswu6YZZ
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,93Please respect copyright.PENANADT0YeM67IF
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,93Please respect copyright.PENANAIlDW786ArC
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,93Please respect copyright.PENANAVonSQZg4IX
以免自取其辱。93Please respect copyright.PENANA2wMj7DbU8Y
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,93Please respect copyright.PENANALIsroeibRi
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,93Please respect copyright.PENANAZs2miuYwfc
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,93Please respect copyright.PENANAHKvqTUZJZl
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。93Please respect copyright.PENANAzUgUr1Gtjy
就算不是萍水相逢,93Please respect copyright.PENANA8FQxAvKUN9
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,93Please respect copyright.PENANAWiVcFPYMDO
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。93Please respect copyright.PENANAHylYeTIXvv
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,93Please respect copyright.PENANASbBawQILKk
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。93Please respect copyright.PENANA6J4ndPaYDC
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,93Please respect copyright.PENANAV8aIBxIC4O
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,93Please respect copyright.PENANA2JhvNLlkJs
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,93Please respect copyright.PENANA6zhTU4IAGr
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,93Please respect copyright.PENANA0qUz4VqCpU
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。93Please respect copyright.PENANA2Td3tPhZG9
其實,93Please respect copyright.PENANAYljjfHV5wr
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAYb7c26mMte
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。93Please respect copyright.PENANAzGgwUaJxBZ
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,93Please respect copyright.PENANA9UcmRkdNAQ
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAXLPRwsGes2
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,93Please respect copyright.PENANAEuHzYoqba5
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,93Please respect copyright.PENANAdaWcK5rCbJ
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,93Please respect copyright.PENANAmLMmMkYXAj
即是「第一印象」,93Please respect copyright.PENANAjooawYb8t6
這些教導大家都會說得到。93Please respect copyright.PENANAiBdL9q5Mw9
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但不約而同地,93Please respect copyright.PENANAjJVtZ3eT0X
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,93Please respect copyright.PENANALfv3D4QTwQ
不主動提及就視為不存在。93Please respect copyright.PENANAkznqEAgJWY
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,93Please respect copyright.PENANABPd7bD2dnv
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?93Please respect copyright.PENANA2tueleS9i0
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,93Please respect copyright.PENANA7zg5rL3ZB9
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,93Please respect copyright.PENANAFN0yf2qh0U
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。93Please respect copyright.PENANARcj2eq9f2l
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,93Please respect copyright.PENANATLxcowpe10
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,93Please respect copyright.PENANAW6JTOHH96L
這不是我胡亂杜撰。93Please respect copyright.PENANAKtvbwzLLq1
如此的話,93Please respect copyright.PENANASUXOAZxDBm
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?93Please respect copyright.PENANADfULedyy3y
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,93Please respect copyright.PENANAswkXkNHkQl
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。93Please respect copyright.PENANASNWOcSAJPO
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不過,93Please respect copyright.PENANAqlltWCZGdw
鍾仁宇更大的錯,93Please respect copyright.PENANAYH5D4NvVcm
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,93Please respect copyright.PENANAzSDu2lUtRU
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,93Please respect copyright.PENANAmcYmHGjQ2y
反而令到感情生活更豐富。93Please respect copyright.PENANAbqWABOhlMj
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAin4z6Tb5G2
又怎會落得被利用的下場?93Please respect copyright.PENANA5CCLWKPUUj
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,93Please respect copyright.PENANAmBTnqJNjiO
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,93Please respect copyright.PENANALnjfHwSAH0
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,93Please respect copyright.PENANA4kdcT1IHoe
我無十分認真看過這電影,93Please respect copyright.PENANAgul4U6tJHI
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。93Please respect copyright.PENANAc21KEzh4DZ
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。93Please respect copyright.PENANA8V9UxfxPN6
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讀者們,93Please respect copyright.PENANAzjl8lFzYbO
如果你是鍾仁宇,93Please respect copyright.PENANAtDS00I67WZ
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?93Please respect copyright.PENANAuSik3kgO8r
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》93Please respect copyright.PENANA2T2iolzg8w
戀愛心理,第四回。