
從一般人的理解入面,108Please respect copyright.PENANAUCMT9G3knn
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。108Please respect copyright.PENANAlD0lkUqYeb
108Please respect copyright.PENANADTzqhu7sbE
不過,108Please respect copyright.PENANAwAZVZXDVaQ
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,108Please respect copyright.PENANAJR2ugoS3lR
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。108Please respect copyright.PENANAcHnoopWcQu
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)108Please respect copyright.PENANAvDa6wxTPN4
經文來自約伯記16章4節:108Please respect copyright.PENANAbI8oJ34yAG
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語108Please respect copyright.PENANAhhN4x8qoTh
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」108Please respect copyright.PENANAChtgD9zhl6
108Please respect copyright.PENANAcuOb4KLH3C
約伯處身於苦難的當中,108Please respect copyright.PENANAYuVMMqm0aE
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,108Please respect copyright.PENANAdNkdoKkCTs
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,108Please respect copyright.PENANAZyKZwNKA5l
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。108Please respect copyright.PENANAUkfUa2CVjz
108Please respect copyright.PENANAjbrkWH0Ys5
Message版就譯得更清楚:108Please respect copyright.PENANAXOpEJu2DfG
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」108Please respect copyright.PENANAPc80vtIcsX
108Please respect copyright.PENANA3jrsQPabxD
為何約伯感到極其失望?108Please respect copyright.PENANABly5UZytDy
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,108Please respect copyright.PENANAyTsqavYSc6
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,108Please respect copyright.PENANAUFXC3oDEac
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。108Please respect copyright.PENANAk2waEryIBM
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?108Please respect copyright.PENANAmWoX59VyXU
108Please respect copyright.PENANAAg9qlk0rzZ
無論是信徒還是非信徒,108Please respect copyright.PENANACJwv8amYdv
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,108Please respect copyright.PENANA7xRJQVuH2g
亦是最難掌握的。108Please respect copyright.PENANAc1uVBOaMf7
108Please respect copyright.PENANAlODxDPlz3K
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,108Please respect copyright.PENANA2SnqCHv4GG
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,108Please respect copyright.PENANA9CxaMzcejF
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,108Please respect copyright.PENANA77rV22XKKn
卻是全部跳過忽略,108Please respect copyright.PENANAHQ2kRnFGfO
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,108Please respect copyright.PENANAQLRxDOh9cQ
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。108Please respect copyright.PENANA3Wi4vWpxt8
108Please respect copyright.PENANAuUxexYaZwK
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,108Please respect copyright.PENANARa1mXpV6fg
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,108Please respect copyright.PENANAVzQgl2oX6R
它分為四個區域:108Please respect copyright.PENANASvTA8y9vt2
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)108Please respect copyright.PENANAPKWttr16wc
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)108Please respect copyright.PENANAEtJccPGI3K
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)108Please respect copyright.PENANA1WJIcGwCZx
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)108Please respect copyright.PENANAoYZrg0D1gc
108Please respect copyright.PENANAy9y8FScXas
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:108Please respect copyright.PENANAtB6n7MdeIi
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?108Please respect copyright.PENANA5RhIju8cXz
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,108Please respect copyright.PENANAlkn25gDoj6
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?108Please respect copyright.PENANAWiDOrJNxbr
108Please respect copyright.PENANAkcvrn8Z6sX
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,108Please respect copyright.PENANA2FNdINCjsy
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?108Please respect copyright.PENANAgOMJHEdCEZ
108Please respect copyright.PENANA2tDNEzH70x
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》108Please respect copyright.PENANAFBbx7VJubK
戀愛心理,第三回。