
從一般人的理解入面,84Please respect copyright.PENANAcdIAiuS61I
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。84Please respect copyright.PENANA1jMnwWDtWv
84Please respect copyright.PENANAWdiKtZcNzZ
不過,84Please respect copyright.PENANA1YQZaGhxZa
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,84Please respect copyright.PENANAIObzSXcl3a
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。84Please respect copyright.PENANAM60kdwZpBK
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)84Please respect copyright.PENANApA9cvov3St
經文來自約伯記16章4節:84Please respect copyright.PENANAVo2bmGazEF
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語84Please respect copyright.PENANAu4j2NCUjic
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」84Please respect copyright.PENANApAFPNmd2Tc
84Please respect copyright.PENANA1ZxABUSPNA
約伯處身於苦難的當中,84Please respect copyright.PENANAasYHJ59ij3
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,84Please respect copyright.PENANARGxgS23tdq
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,84Please respect copyright.PENANASrpLMisGa1
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。84Please respect copyright.PENANA7bVM0ySHZF
84Please respect copyright.PENANAFQJ4Fpbl6o
Message版就譯得更清楚:84Please respect copyright.PENANAT3eYuV7kiN
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」84Please respect copyright.PENANALESSsoktEP
84Please respect copyright.PENANAnhzl6j8Q1w
為何約伯感到極其失望?84Please respect copyright.PENANA6Jmcp4jgPv
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,84Please respect copyright.PENANAehjA56Phos
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,84Please respect copyright.PENANA4DQolD1rKi
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。84Please respect copyright.PENANAKFeQAfbavB
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?84Please respect copyright.PENANAurXigKO2HO
84Please respect copyright.PENANAleHNM03Y4F
無論是信徒還是非信徒,84Please respect copyright.PENANAtlcdlzRDVX
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,84Please respect copyright.PENANA7tF3nv9fzH
亦是最難掌握的。84Please respect copyright.PENANAlZY8It2zbN
84Please respect copyright.PENANAhVWEkysEjy
記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,84Please respect copyright.PENANAdQTfIVG8el
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,84Please respect copyright.PENANAzXqLFM9sii
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,84Please respect copyright.PENANAFsusajCbq8
卻是全部跳過忽略,84Please respect copyright.PENANAmltKgIt0vB
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,84Please respect copyright.PENANA5S6u4Juc13
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。84Please respect copyright.PENANAf55bj0tNP1
84Please respect copyright.PENANAZO2fYvwgL1
多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,84Please respect copyright.PENANAD2Tly7NGpX
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,84Please respect copyright.PENANAINZXQyDWuD
它分為四個區域:84Please respect copyright.PENANA0YMlBJcvVn
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)84Please respect copyright.PENANARPQ20lmcLM
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)84Please respect copyright.PENANA6TvPRC282E
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)84Please respect copyright.PENANAV5Uq1Ah6IY
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)84Please respect copyright.PENANARBzDrPLTFU
84Please respect copyright.PENANAn5gjihnYGh
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:84Please respect copyright.PENANAMNiUeBo1FI
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?84Please respect copyright.PENANAZkWKacqsgw
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,84Please respect copyright.PENANAIpc9pPlISF
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?84Please respect copyright.PENANAgM2o2P56aN
84Please respect copyright.PENANAKN8cu8AVzg
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,84Please respect copyright.PENANAIh944E0XUg
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?84Please respect copyright.PENANAWaiPXuf3dO
84Please respect copyright.PENANAZIaxbboJLI
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》84Please respect copyright.PENANAsXCRQXRPx3
戀愛心理,第三回。