
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,118Please respect copyright.PENANA1bi0UeZZoL
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,118Please respect copyright.PENANAs1qDrATYMd
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。118Please respect copyright.PENANAob2iER2NyM
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,118Please respect copyright.PENANAEoFFCLigpL
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,118Please respect copyright.PENANA0xSTUP4CSb
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,118Please respect copyright.PENANA7vyh3gAvvc
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。118Please respect copyright.PENANAIK5sTWVbq9
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,118Please respect copyright.PENANAftrkosXAhK
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。118Please respect copyright.PENANAAkp3FdG5Ce
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。118Please respect copyright.PENANAghgbpN8R92
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那隻驢子本來不用死,118Please respect copyright.PENANAPp5ONVsNkn
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。118Please respect copyright.PENANAqQ4Roe9e5k
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,118Please respect copyright.PENANACqKnVyGNqE
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,118Please respect copyright.PENANA2CVsIjskcv
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,118Please respect copyright.PENANAIRf0UFupZj
以免自取其辱。118Please respect copyright.PENANA3BGXUa5wMw
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,118Please respect copyright.PENANAnO0CtjvppE
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,118Please respect copyright.PENANAmRDHLcPXP1
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,118Please respect copyright.PENANAX5swMGmf8v
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。118Please respect copyright.PENANAvjXGcBDdBU
就算不是萍水相逢,118Please respect copyright.PENANAMdlz1kJuSW
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,118Please respect copyright.PENANAw3rLjM1ShY
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。118Please respect copyright.PENANAiF6Wc0Hbdi
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,118Please respect copyright.PENANAToNqLOjXEK
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。118Please respect copyright.PENANAL8xuwgcK01
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,118Please respect copyright.PENANAl2ea9EoOJP
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,118Please respect copyright.PENANA9PhkmhdHg6
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,118Please respect copyright.PENANAbZaJEkHWjZ
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,118Please respect copyright.PENANAO2gVT8F30J
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。118Please respect copyright.PENANAiwBIbOVvu4
其實,118Please respect copyright.PENANAU8BHeLXOFs
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,118Please respect copyright.PENANAV0FhrmGW7v
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。118Please respect copyright.PENANARheU7Vrnvk
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,118Please respect copyright.PENANA3ZQ3AFYAEE
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,118Please respect copyright.PENANAq3qaqFro7g
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,118Please respect copyright.PENANAblunsMshZ5
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,118Please respect copyright.PENANAsQlYGwwpKO
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,118Please respect copyright.PENANAmMWFQy6siH
即是「第一印象」,118Please respect copyright.PENANAQySFiDnnXw
這些教導大家都會說得到。118Please respect copyright.PENANAhi4lo8UFtf
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但不約而同地,118Please respect copyright.PENANA6yXQS0izeL
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,118Please respect copyright.PENANACE8w1wOmcm
不主動提及就視為不存在。118Please respect copyright.PENANABt4hzh9Ipj
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,118Please respect copyright.PENANA5R57JNjqAp
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?118Please respect copyright.PENANA7Fq1qOIvtv
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,118Please respect copyright.PENANAtMAvkQVL6c
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,118Please respect copyright.PENANAifaFJSZudy
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。118Please respect copyright.PENANA6eHTNv90rP
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,118Please respect copyright.PENANADm6wJA5yxG
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,118Please respect copyright.PENANArjyRvXJmmV
這不是我胡亂杜撰。118Please respect copyright.PENANAfW9SpzOAFF
如此的話,118Please respect copyright.PENANAIW84h0L8h9
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?118Please respect copyright.PENANA8foles0sNf
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,118Please respect copyright.PENANAysxxq0G5eg
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。118Please respect copyright.PENANAcl7UaBvPsG
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不過,118Please respect copyright.PENANA298GvrH2zQ
鍾仁宇更大的錯,118Please respect copyright.PENANA2SBl4UDIpm
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,118Please respect copyright.PENANAbBntEzQO5p
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,118Please respect copyright.PENANAhATKRw7Pv1
反而令到感情生活更豐富。118Please respect copyright.PENANAKUQ28Pwusn
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,118Please respect copyright.PENANAWgctYKXKEa
又怎會落得被利用的下場?118Please respect copyright.PENANA2dth9XgRoR
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,118Please respect copyright.PENANAOcjUX9B61Q
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,118Please respect copyright.PENANAhWiWZc17CX
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,118Please respect copyright.PENANA1A4o7vfcxA
我無十分認真看過這電影,118Please respect copyright.PENANAQPbYuHy11y
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。118Please respect copyright.PENANA30SYo2JNc4
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。118Please respect copyright.PENANAin4tTvuBWc
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讀者們,118Please respect copyright.PENANAdaEWMHoi6t
如果你是鍾仁宇,118Please respect copyright.PENANATQXOxUECR1
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?118Please respect copyright.PENANAsWKHEvIti4
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》118Please respect copyright.PENANATr6KhYlzqf
戀愛心理,第四回。