
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,91Please respect copyright.PENANAI5OIWVNBXC
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwe9m6q8Twn
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。91Please respect copyright.PENANAi1WqVvn8tO
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,91Please respect copyright.PENANASYpAwz3sXm
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,91Please respect copyright.PENANAtHxSkcHduW
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,91Please respect copyright.PENANAK29Tc7cABQ
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。91Please respect copyright.PENANAEMaQL20xUv
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,91Please respect copyright.PENANA9codUaHMBs
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。91Please respect copyright.PENANAQRqWC1axuY
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。91Please respect copyright.PENANAecsBCYkswL
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那隻驢子本來不用死,91Please respect copyright.PENANAp83IGq3oNf
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。91Please respect copyright.PENANABbbTlaN8Xm
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,91Please respect copyright.PENANAM2Ai2tM143
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,91Please respect copyright.PENANAueeHsINCSN
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,91Please respect copyright.PENANAUkdKU8q1JL
以免自取其辱。91Please respect copyright.PENANAn5gdd4jM8N
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwdNxotGXiZ
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,91Please respect copyright.PENANAOWfby8XJN9
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,91Please respect copyright.PENANAxOX3quX9pQ
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。91Please respect copyright.PENANAFcAii7KgwE
就算不是萍水相逢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAedBs1FY5TA
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,91Please respect copyright.PENANAAy6AlOlXhQ
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。91Please respect copyright.PENANAesmqUt0suP
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,91Please respect copyright.PENANA2nqUGRSt6m
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。91Please respect copyright.PENANA49uTgM0Q4n
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,91Please respect copyright.PENANAzQJKVovCjN
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,91Please respect copyright.PENANAaQMZ0YLYRt
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANA7UV9XFzE7w
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAT0CWgsH6kK
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。91Please respect copyright.PENANABKQ0OuPih1
其實,91Please respect copyright.PENANAu72PllsD5a
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,91Please respect copyright.PENANAxk0j1k6d9U
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。91Please respect copyright.PENANAbbTATUjmtS
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,91Please respect copyright.PENANAugvxTTykrh
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,91Please respect copyright.PENANAQzazyzpDR9
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,91Please respect copyright.PENANAvRkiU8tenu
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,91Please respect copyright.PENANAfV2jYIuYmk
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,91Please respect copyright.PENANAyr0p8JwvQy
即是「第一印象」,91Please respect copyright.PENANA5Q0QZahK2H
這些教導大家都會說得到。91Please respect copyright.PENANAfSS4fcwyXq
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但不約而同地,91Please respect copyright.PENANAJjUzr6ySkP
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,91Please respect copyright.PENANADHk2P2wFPi
不主動提及就視為不存在。91Please respect copyright.PENANAPcY5QnaRw6
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAsNR8D4aB2P
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?91Please respect copyright.PENANAJhYr8GgXud
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,91Please respect copyright.PENANAViMcJRJEvF
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANAn3qJW6NYsE
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。91Please respect copyright.PENANAUIzPvRf5Ie
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,91Please respect copyright.PENANA74thKNE47A
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANAI4hgzJo5iu
這不是我胡亂杜撰。91Please respect copyright.PENANAysci1tuJdc
如此的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAfbqbp0HpJa
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?91Please respect copyright.PENANAYTeaf2vou0
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANAWNKzHQXnHq
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。91Please respect copyright.PENANAi3CxMOrjFn
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不過,91Please respect copyright.PENANAE54rpDIykq
鍾仁宇更大的錯,91Please respect copyright.PENANAsMQG6qo8XC
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANA4hrN9EYONh
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,91Please respect copyright.PENANArLjabfAWhf
反而令到感情生活更豐富。91Please respect copyright.PENANAUyjPnCMNjZ
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,91Please respect copyright.PENANACCVDF3Me7t
又怎會落得被利用的下場?91Please respect copyright.PENANALhJ0ddcfrN
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwz4rhXgp2U
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,91Please respect copyright.PENANAPFwyHWmXVJ
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANAGXs57ADSey
我無十分認真看過這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANAkNQi0hTYZM
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。91Please respect copyright.PENANAHXJUCfJaWZ
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。91Please respect copyright.PENANAnHgjgNt8s1
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讀者們,91Please respect copyright.PENANAZCJkyIxmqS
如果你是鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANAyuGN1buKVT
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?91Please respect copyright.PENANAQ3pnLwKCKK
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》91Please respect copyright.PENANAVSQGc2YLae
戀愛心理,第四回。