
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,107Please respect copyright.PENANAjh8D9bfMa5
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,107Please respect copyright.PENANAVbjB7b4ApH
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。107Please respect copyright.PENANAlZvm5LleW2
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,107Please respect copyright.PENANARFteWGIVEI
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,107Please respect copyright.PENANAiZ9qjwFzK0
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,107Please respect copyright.PENANANPlnrv3umX
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。107Please respect copyright.PENANAPBX7l1NfUi
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,107Please respect copyright.PENANAbriVOPnfrC
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。107Please respect copyright.PENANAnLd6696Hgm
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。107Please respect copyright.PENANAdp7CNWcnqX
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那隻驢子本來不用死,107Please respect copyright.PENANAuRXfqhM11v
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。107Please respect copyright.PENANAevS9VC1e6Z
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,107Please respect copyright.PENANA65W9RbifS3
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,107Please respect copyright.PENANA6F7uud0xXs
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,107Please respect copyright.PENANA1MAsx5Xhlc
以免自取其辱。107Please respect copyright.PENANAxUE3uKGvzu
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,107Please respect copyright.PENANAwalsbiz50k
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,107Please respect copyright.PENANArpfKsByDLt
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,107Please respect copyright.PENANAhjJsTkvCsc
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。107Please respect copyright.PENANAm9rgVvVSMT
就算不是萍水相逢,107Please respect copyright.PENANATQyDZVtSlm
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,107Please respect copyright.PENANAJ556ILq1tX
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。107Please respect copyright.PENANAXvcxD0twrX
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,107Please respect copyright.PENANAQ6tW71u0F4
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。107Please respect copyright.PENANA44EOp8jc3l
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,107Please respect copyright.PENANAZvxCrqd8U0
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,107Please respect copyright.PENANALQEOWVcJMS
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,107Please respect copyright.PENANAi8CWR1ucaD
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,107Please respect copyright.PENANAQFw9ri3KfL
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。107Please respect copyright.PENANA15r2aVpJoB
其實,107Please respect copyright.PENANAC38KodUnfR
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,107Please respect copyright.PENANAM8KVTb2fN2
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。107Please respect copyright.PENANAnHzdJyS892
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,107Please respect copyright.PENANAvAlSEySIqQ
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,107Please respect copyright.PENANABEG0AwhDEo
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,107Please respect copyright.PENANAEQ7bdbMWX0
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,107Please respect copyright.PENANAX50AqMXWzS
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,107Please respect copyright.PENANAC1jgiPdilb
即是「第一印象」,107Please respect copyright.PENANAKrQ1Z0LiAw
這些教導大家都會說得到。107Please respect copyright.PENANA0jju3n87h8
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但不約而同地,107Please respect copyright.PENANABAWOOz5N1M
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,107Please respect copyright.PENANA4BWawQZgoI
不主動提及就視為不存在。107Please respect copyright.PENANA5noiCBnYMP
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,107Please respect copyright.PENANAPk4zKviW0z
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?107Please respect copyright.PENANAUQFVAHwPN1
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,107Please respect copyright.PENANAve3zmfp5FI
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,107Please respect copyright.PENANAYaF84nuRuB
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。107Please respect copyright.PENANAyjotWqVkSh
107Please respect copyright.PENANAslal21KM9C
我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,107Please respect copyright.PENANAUpYEllbHW6
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,107Please respect copyright.PENANAxhFWJlAMhK
這不是我胡亂杜撰。107Please respect copyright.PENANA57PWtnKG0s
如此的話,107Please respect copyright.PENANAMA9jnbXhTJ
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?107Please respect copyright.PENANAUXuciXmlO9
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,107Please respect copyright.PENANAZUl2xYGWfV
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。107Please respect copyright.PENANAaWgTXIWxwh
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不過,107Please respect copyright.PENANANHrF1cw1gu
鍾仁宇更大的錯,107Please respect copyright.PENANAMjATiaEiFd
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,107Please respect copyright.PENANAtUG8ODXhhg
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,107Please respect copyright.PENANALwLJNGjwRb
反而令到感情生活更豐富。107Please respect copyright.PENANA5dd2ucOEyn
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,107Please respect copyright.PENANAjkZnSeGalP
又怎會落得被利用的下場?107Please respect copyright.PENANAy6TU1vkdPT
107Please respect copyright.PENANAhGRgPH4D52
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,107Please respect copyright.PENANAHzRJ7RRhaY
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,107Please respect copyright.PENANAP4Sa0PRlYr
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,107Please respect copyright.PENANAo2FkN0E7hL
我無十分認真看過這電影,107Please respect copyright.PENANAerKnodSrGd
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。107Please respect copyright.PENANAQjfI0SgG1j
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。107Please respect copyright.PENANAWg6MlrL8En
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讀者們,107Please respect copyright.PENANAChN4JM2kxJ
如果你是鍾仁宇,107Please respect copyright.PENANAN62dB2hHMn
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?107Please respect copyright.PENANADXNqTYuDic
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》107Please respect copyright.PENANAXgYQxjrLcl
戀愛心理,第四回。