
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,84Please respect copyright.PENANAZhBV5Ucrul
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,84Please respect copyright.PENANAEmqFF40PMk
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。84Please respect copyright.PENANAProoHHq9BE
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,84Please respect copyright.PENANAwfP99eIims
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,84Please respect copyright.PENANAQwDMVGudS8
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,84Please respect copyright.PENANAjqDGrRhrFh
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。84Please respect copyright.PENANAo8ATDCeP7l
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,84Please respect copyright.PENANA61M9UVruDR
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。84Please respect copyright.PENANATuyGVZF2xD
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。84Please respect copyright.PENANASpYKcblAcN
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那隻驢子本來不用死,84Please respect copyright.PENANAUZ5TfEdhlI
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。84Please respect copyright.PENANAMfiS8d9CL8
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,84Please respect copyright.PENANAiXWbHpqOfJ
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,84Please respect copyright.PENANAzy3fUOUpol
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,84Please respect copyright.PENANAcDKqWxtdt9
以免自取其辱。84Please respect copyright.PENANAnSpnNvMV52
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,84Please respect copyright.PENANAwedDAXXt8i
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,84Please respect copyright.PENANAN0CfYUZUHg
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,84Please respect copyright.PENANAhtcbGbGdjP
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。84Please respect copyright.PENANArxKsEqoxMW
就算不是萍水相逢,84Please respect copyright.PENANAWT4SuKdzWu
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,84Please respect copyright.PENANAp4Qg2kg6QL
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。84Please respect copyright.PENANAV8cYGGwrMF
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,84Please respect copyright.PENANAxS6zWDHWNn
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。84Please respect copyright.PENANADoqZ7gZRjR
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,84Please respect copyright.PENANAKuJpWd4XjY
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,84Please respect copyright.PENANA4uBLSYqXM4
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,84Please respect copyright.PENANAuGTD2K9voy
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,84Please respect copyright.PENANAVXBjftdO98
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。84Please respect copyright.PENANAytHqApaRGh
其實,84Please respect copyright.PENANAnqtk5ERD8e
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,84Please respect copyright.PENANAk0g8NpCpfc
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。84Please respect copyright.PENANAjBhIa0Qsgg
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,84Please respect copyright.PENANARPLMq0SHhk
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,84Please respect copyright.PENANA7cT7C97M2M
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,84Please respect copyright.PENANAbWasVam0jH
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,84Please respect copyright.PENANALYxw4uXx5z
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,84Please respect copyright.PENANAk7WAdaLUdn
即是「第一印象」,84Please respect copyright.PENANA9bzvyZ0XJK
這些教導大家都會說得到。84Please respect copyright.PENANAgNOPygSl82
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但不約而同地,84Please respect copyright.PENANAw5aBmZTlhX
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,84Please respect copyright.PENANAvewOJzpFaz
不主動提及就視為不存在。84Please respect copyright.PENANAf0JKkAOzGm
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,84Please respect copyright.PENANAz98GZNCB1p
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?84Please respect copyright.PENANAwWhrWNyiKT
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,84Please respect copyright.PENANA6YpuZXzMwl
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,84Please respect copyright.PENANABNtP4Gnd9i
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。84Please respect copyright.PENANA0mERSGZM5k
84Please respect copyright.PENANAmS0dfXUPT6
我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,84Please respect copyright.PENANAqanmbAwc1g
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,84Please respect copyright.PENANA03CN2PUkH6
這不是我胡亂杜撰。84Please respect copyright.PENANAQ0JDQXsdAS
如此的話,84Please respect copyright.PENANAO2ylfzXU4k
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?84Please respect copyright.PENANAA5fYQ7Wkug
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,84Please respect copyright.PENANAXdnVDjdJxl
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。84Please respect copyright.PENANAereCfkwkft
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不過,84Please respect copyright.PENANApsqhzNft4L
鍾仁宇更大的錯,84Please respect copyright.PENANAmWJak8SmRM
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,84Please respect copyright.PENANAiFOKrgLoMx
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,84Please respect copyright.PENANABTOSarSmMb
反而令到感情生活更豐富。84Please respect copyright.PENANA9K1IE3eaYg
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,84Please respect copyright.PENANA1k9uEaBaGF
又怎會落得被利用的下場?84Please respect copyright.PENANADvhTcBFrV5
84Please respect copyright.PENANAoZuNLxTKTx
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,84Please respect copyright.PENANAxBXqgKnU43
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,84Please respect copyright.PENANAV724ucdS6M
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,84Please respect copyright.PENANAH7DikaWSnI
我無十分認真看過這電影,84Please respect copyright.PENANAHgeWf42jWx
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。84Please respect copyright.PENANAsGIA21Rox1
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。84Please respect copyright.PENANA2W5El8Iknh
84Please respect copyright.PENANAinVozogPvp
讀者們,84Please respect copyright.PENANAbtP1V9StAi
如果你是鍾仁宇,84Please respect copyright.PENANADL0wBMCCAs
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?84Please respect copyright.PENANAYmDEK9LPas
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》84Please respect copyright.PENANAmaTml8Vglg
戀愛心理,第四回。