
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,72Please respect copyright.PENANADUEw0MMTL9
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,72Please respect copyright.PENANAXytd0IdKdW
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。72Please respect copyright.PENANA1AuqBmltLN
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,72Please respect copyright.PENANAa0jqpTHrQJ
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,72Please respect copyright.PENANAWmelp329ar
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,72Please respect copyright.PENANACKAMTkWyqH
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。72Please respect copyright.PENANAArOfYnsXfU
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,72Please respect copyright.PENANALpYDaxCCoe
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。72Please respect copyright.PENANA1ZKhZhdrvK
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。72Please respect copyright.PENANAdgCe5iSMEV
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那隻驢子本來不用死,72Please respect copyright.PENANACj5M9ZCqfl
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。72Please respect copyright.PENANAsdAWie2YwZ
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,72Please respect copyright.PENANAsw7KhvSi5Z
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,72Please respect copyright.PENANA0XrgeZfmVH
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,72Please respect copyright.PENANAZbNfH4ihNb
以免自取其辱。72Please respect copyright.PENANAFLL0vAY3Sg
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,72Please respect copyright.PENANAU8mgqPagUs
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,72Please respect copyright.PENANAaitScMR39Y
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,72Please respect copyright.PENANAycIWX5oKzB
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。72Please respect copyright.PENANAtxhQZCN7aZ
就算不是萍水相逢,72Please respect copyright.PENANArMw3dEbJrG
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,72Please respect copyright.PENANArI32NNifyn
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。72Please respect copyright.PENANAE7eFKmQVT0
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,72Please respect copyright.PENANAaj4lpQJEWo
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。72Please respect copyright.PENANAruzMBeXm1S
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,72Please respect copyright.PENANAx0ulLfaMGg
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,72Please respect copyright.PENANAnhSbr6Xgvl
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,72Please respect copyright.PENANAh24565wqDT
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,72Please respect copyright.PENANAMV30fRtcmo
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。72Please respect copyright.PENANAZT6uDe8K2W
其實,72Please respect copyright.PENANAMjwJMMV6PD
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,72Please respect copyright.PENANA0I7iMANzPA
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。72Please respect copyright.PENANAMETIK2bNQX
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,72Please respect copyright.PENANAq9FSDlwYfZ
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,72Please respect copyright.PENANAis5biYp1JY
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,72Please respect copyright.PENANAjpYsakRFQQ
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,72Please respect copyright.PENANATCpGkH1XCg
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,72Please respect copyright.PENANAWoftpQkWME
即是「第一印象」,72Please respect copyright.PENANAQ913S94rcI
這些教導大家都會說得到。72Please respect copyright.PENANATwKosaOp31
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但不約而同地,72Please respect copyright.PENANAdwEWT8KEpp
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,72Please respect copyright.PENANAOWdOh4TdkW
不主動提及就視為不存在。72Please respect copyright.PENANAAP3qKCVVTY
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,72Please respect copyright.PENANAFAAyZ1xNds
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?72Please respect copyright.PENANAuZMKD71aVj
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,72Please respect copyright.PENANAMDyHIjR6Qd
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,72Please respect copyright.PENANAQrU5NhIexc
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。72Please respect copyright.PENANAP5Xq5KjJjz
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,72Please respect copyright.PENANAGtHdutOnCz
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,72Please respect copyright.PENANAbkIr5HGJYE
這不是我胡亂杜撰。72Please respect copyright.PENANAW52XRezFly
如此的話,72Please respect copyright.PENANA0zUkYkIAjH
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?72Please respect copyright.PENANA1jDJUs5meP
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,72Please respect copyright.PENANA21cDkEoq50
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。72Please respect copyright.PENANAzXbNxJDlKr
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不過,72Please respect copyright.PENANArSmkqBf2xL
鍾仁宇更大的錯,72Please respect copyright.PENANAfOR5aVKdHz
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,72Please respect copyright.PENANAkmmdDOweuI
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,72Please respect copyright.PENANAbPhZv1sGuj
反而令到感情生活更豐富。72Please respect copyright.PENANAWiiuZq03Mk
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,72Please respect copyright.PENANAKQ5xuH4Tbb
又怎會落得被利用的下場?72Please respect copyright.PENANAg8nNUb5EtY
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,72Please respect copyright.PENANAjeplY3juaz
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,72Please respect copyright.PENANADkFqRhOgmm
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,72Please respect copyright.PENANA5pDN2eChT0
我無十分認真看過這電影,72Please respect copyright.PENANAvVKkfRnGPy
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。72Please respect copyright.PENANAdnv1vWjnqY
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。72Please respect copyright.PENANA5Ky1qYcg7o
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讀者們,72Please respect copyright.PENANAW8WIUO2sdt
如果你是鍾仁宇,72Please respect copyright.PENANAHTr52PtKiN
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?72Please respect copyright.PENANAvIX9ZrnCEh
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》72Please respect copyright.PENANAQJmZHoxxoN
戀愛心理,第四回。