
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,71Please respect copyright.PENANAWQaoOZgJZk
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,71Please respect copyright.PENANAXlyfXdgIh9
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。71Please respect copyright.PENANApe41P3hPGx
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,71Please respect copyright.PENANA6Vnrvkt59r
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,71Please respect copyright.PENANAcaU3mYhDJw
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,71Please respect copyright.PENANApfO8sie7LO
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。71Please respect copyright.PENANAEFXf7SY0eZ
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,71Please respect copyright.PENANAAtQtMBJJP8
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。71Please respect copyright.PENANAF9kLm1zRwm
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。71Please respect copyright.PENANABIsnLB2cJs
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那隻驢子本來不用死,71Please respect copyright.PENANAsF2nLewtVp
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。71Please respect copyright.PENANAEV5mHy2YLg
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,71Please respect copyright.PENANA19vNSgbMc1
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,71Please respect copyright.PENANAsWaKlqQDlP
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,71Please respect copyright.PENANAz28gEQFTsK
以免自取其辱。71Please respect copyright.PENANAABKrDqCnpS
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,71Please respect copyright.PENANAdJ35CBBxl6
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,71Please respect copyright.PENANA5gco09oFba
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,71Please respect copyright.PENANAEOIPEChSEm
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。71Please respect copyright.PENANAaIy5ZVAKRx
就算不是萍水相逢,71Please respect copyright.PENANAOQW3UuaAWF
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,71Please respect copyright.PENANAzpgnOCqf5v
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。71Please respect copyright.PENANAdjBocefhfU
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,71Please respect copyright.PENANAEReKDGkvAf
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。71Please respect copyright.PENANARu9Jx4fUTF
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,71Please respect copyright.PENANA7Oll3RzVeF
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,71Please respect copyright.PENANAZ79pbA0sAz
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,71Please respect copyright.PENANA6ZYBHLOs7e
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,71Please respect copyright.PENANAfXv6snZoeg
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。71Please respect copyright.PENANABhn4YFJe4r
其實,71Please respect copyright.PENANA0o5VXCRd18
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,71Please respect copyright.PENANAhrtBqbPYxG
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。71Please respect copyright.PENANASNEBoo72yF
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,71Please respect copyright.PENANAo2nVp9K7Qn
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,71Please respect copyright.PENANAZrh4Go1r5V
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,71Please respect copyright.PENANAvdCUAkGUiy
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,71Please respect copyright.PENANAATuajZk9w9
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,71Please respect copyright.PENANAlKdr4rqK76
即是「第一印象」,71Please respect copyright.PENANAseohriiC5t
這些教導大家都會說得到。71Please respect copyright.PENANAg09Ym2dCDx
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但不約而同地,71Please respect copyright.PENANAvBWLcLCcRJ
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,71Please respect copyright.PENANAz9C8nx8BXn
不主動提及就視為不存在。71Please respect copyright.PENANAVcYVTasT2w
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,71Please respect copyright.PENANAFFpD8M7l8l
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?71Please respect copyright.PENANAvPRFgIqdyY
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,71Please respect copyright.PENANA0OqCJdsoSn
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,71Please respect copyright.PENANAdwdECgwdoH
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。71Please respect copyright.PENANA4cYI8lNRsa
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,71Please respect copyright.PENANAAcolaljLvq
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,71Please respect copyright.PENANAjtxd2BOnhQ
這不是我胡亂杜撰。71Please respect copyright.PENANAQN5hZTXZ39
如此的話,71Please respect copyright.PENANAqQKZfR4SBB
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?71Please respect copyright.PENANAYWK0oUpMzh
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,71Please respect copyright.PENANAN1PeOdgLkK
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。71Please respect copyright.PENANAbsmDqXQyaq
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不過,71Please respect copyright.PENANAHdEODf9C6w
鍾仁宇更大的錯,71Please respect copyright.PENANAwtehkMcv5c
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,71Please respect copyright.PENANA0QOxJ0JIlt
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,71Please respect copyright.PENANAoPry9cbcdQ
反而令到感情生活更豐富。71Please respect copyright.PENANA7T46rvQgyq
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,71Please respect copyright.PENANAFAS0QkI6ML
又怎會落得被利用的下場?71Please respect copyright.PENANAmwOgprAOVA
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,71Please respect copyright.PENANAIodsWC6ESV
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,71Please respect copyright.PENANAEYCrFSUbDo
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,71Please respect copyright.PENANATyNbUrbU7j
我無十分認真看過這電影,71Please respect copyright.PENANA9L3BxBdZw6
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。71Please respect copyright.PENANAMsTQKTbpTu
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。71Please respect copyright.PENANAFDYx9jc9Ms
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讀者們,71Please respect copyright.PENANAyCwn3f4Uls
如果你是鍾仁宇,71Please respect copyright.PENANAlD8V9WGZop
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?71Please respect copyright.PENANAhYlHa0xctm
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》71Please respect copyright.PENANAuBQ7fcl3cz
戀愛心理,第四回。