
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,91Please respect copyright.PENANAvKSoV1bVtP
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAxpq4A2aATx
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。91Please respect copyright.PENANAlEUgfFsKn8
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,91Please respect copyright.PENANAarqMlFWk5I
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,91Please respect copyright.PENANAAG8qWdcLBB
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,91Please respect copyright.PENANAZQcH4MlboZ
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。91Please respect copyright.PENANAWsTISEunvn
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,91Please respect copyright.PENANAPwKAfVJlBD
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。91Please respect copyright.PENANAVhr2ggBdWO
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。91Please respect copyright.PENANAxBbavmjv1F
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那隻驢子本來不用死,91Please respect copyright.PENANAQhhOqdKJ0e
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。91Please respect copyright.PENANAbTL0B95aC0
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,91Please respect copyright.PENANARGnIHSBvcz
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,91Please respect copyright.PENANAOUlxSxMiPV
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,91Please respect copyright.PENANA3IN2LahaVK
以免自取其辱。91Please respect copyright.PENANAuGqiIWC9U2
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,91Please respect copyright.PENANA0mV3d8azNh
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,91Please respect copyright.PENANAM6KJm1tdUw
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,91Please respect copyright.PENANAxcP4VtkSDH
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。91Please respect copyright.PENANAwoJH2Nwk6q
就算不是萍水相逢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAaqgUdEBjLf
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,91Please respect copyright.PENANAddXojHEcQh
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。91Please respect copyright.PENANAHprbVxSXKX
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,91Please respect copyright.PENANAeFT07sPwev
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。91Please respect copyright.PENANACq2t83IsMS
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,91Please respect copyright.PENANAuJT8eOhhsS
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,91Please respect copyright.PENANAuZVBptOw5U
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANAUAn4GAyxhl
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,91Please respect copyright.PENANA6hLqYJfVUl
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。91Please respect copyright.PENANAFlVFhEah0M
其實,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwAqFb8B14N
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,91Please respect copyright.PENANALKwk3Mra7b
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。91Please respect copyright.PENANAiwPxy7RUmN
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,91Please respect copyright.PENANAb4a20NejvD
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,91Please respect copyright.PENANAXx3Pn1cXmn
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,91Please respect copyright.PENANAiXQeBTI5JS
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,91Please respect copyright.PENANAdrAe2L6otL
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,91Please respect copyright.PENANALHQeLXKUWE
即是「第一印象」,91Please respect copyright.PENANAPQ6e0U4dAf
這些教導大家都會說得到。91Please respect copyright.PENANAv9USBv7UfC
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但不約而同地,91Please respect copyright.PENANA0RHUTR2OgH
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,91Please respect copyright.PENANAIoAerBNgj6
不主動提及就視為不存在。91Please respect copyright.PENANArV76PMVBSj
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANA2l7nD56fxg
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?91Please respect copyright.PENANAdo6qyUxaI8
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,91Please respect copyright.PENANAawBSb3q4Uo
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANAheszlYFC0Z
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。91Please respect copyright.PENANAasEqPpvjCW
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,91Please respect copyright.PENANAkHtKzhMdQw
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANAbJQHpaIg2L
這不是我胡亂杜撰。91Please respect copyright.PENANAZ1kX1aSdWu
如此的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAFkLMukdN53
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?91Please respect copyright.PENANAuGnvx6RnCR
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANAoAjIggRNw9
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。91Please respect copyright.PENANAyun5y3o1BU
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不過,91Please respect copyright.PENANAEsjl24ZYdH
鍾仁宇更大的錯,91Please respect copyright.PENANA6J46TSsMjd
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANAKxCQ3Rsm0d
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,91Please respect copyright.PENANAk9F15QQd4b
反而令到感情生活更豐富。91Please respect copyright.PENANA2IJDOEobkx
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,91Please respect copyright.PENANAOoZcM0pg8q
又怎會落得被利用的下場?91Please respect copyright.PENANAhcbztzr7sz
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,91Please respect copyright.PENANAtVIi4Wnhsd
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,91Please respect copyright.PENANAGFfjxefKS7
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANAo2b6woZCNV
我無十分認真看過這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANA5WbL4NNdjN
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。91Please respect copyright.PENANAnWURD1dgkO
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。91Please respect copyright.PENANAjGGFEWc9CT
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讀者們,91Please respect copyright.PENANA6GzrtYd36a
如果你是鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANAz2qAbxkQUC
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?91Please respect copyright.PENANARLbtgvMUSz
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》91Please respect copyright.PENANAu7zzmdn9vK
戀愛心理,第四回。