
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,93Please respect copyright.PENANAktf1DRgTME
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,93Please respect copyright.PENANAPlkUG4wfLs
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。93Please respect copyright.PENANAZrAiBRMUfg
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,93Please respect copyright.PENANAWjwsrTKOPV
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,93Please respect copyright.PENANAdibZg4lDEm
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,93Please respect copyright.PENANALNcgtUS8Io
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。93Please respect copyright.PENANALA78frn2bq
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,93Please respect copyright.PENANACQYCgmHSjt
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。93Please respect copyright.PENANAythrMtXjW4
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。93Please respect copyright.PENANAnBSsWQ7tAo
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那隻驢子本來不用死,93Please respect copyright.PENANAyDGPPtD4DO
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。93Please respect copyright.PENANAcrVOsKhKKc
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,93Please respect copyright.PENANAiRPjllaK9z
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,93Please respect copyright.PENANA6UGGxq2Me2
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,93Please respect copyright.PENANADwlB09z3QR
以免自取其辱。93Please respect copyright.PENANACPZf9poQYq
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,93Please respect copyright.PENANAQDNezqrcVw
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,93Please respect copyright.PENANADQihF3unQe
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,93Please respect copyright.PENANA7OHohJfDUF
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。93Please respect copyright.PENANA6hh9MFtZJB
就算不是萍水相逢,93Please respect copyright.PENANAltdwYx2jAc
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,93Please respect copyright.PENANAOfPy7oKPRa
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。93Please respect copyright.PENANAVQ2ClPqRzu
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,93Please respect copyright.PENANA9UGRfp4ZIe
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。93Please respect copyright.PENANAd5mgqG3XxR
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,93Please respect copyright.PENANA5ZBWv0X7Lb
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,93Please respect copyright.PENANACbvIgaCcAH
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,93Please respect copyright.PENANAFr4tZSfPWM
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,93Please respect copyright.PENANArXtu6HX8KA
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。93Please respect copyright.PENANAJmSaZdPabg
其實,93Please respect copyright.PENANAh79dsufj26
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAlT3eAbbvnH
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。93Please respect copyright.PENANAZuNs0a7hJO
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,93Please respect copyright.PENANAwjPCxRXTWx
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAIQWQbyQlAi
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,93Please respect copyright.PENANA7OGcvnXugk
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,93Please respect copyright.PENANAwIP1tknykE
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,93Please respect copyright.PENANAMv08miCcM8
即是「第一印象」,93Please respect copyright.PENANA63YIU1B3Gh
這些教導大家都會說得到。93Please respect copyright.PENANAqUejW5e1aF
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但不約而同地,93Please respect copyright.PENANAeek4kghLSi
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,93Please respect copyright.PENANAritQggRJQv
不主動提及就視為不存在。93Please respect copyright.PENANA9dvcJltQi9
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,93Please respect copyright.PENANABrbXjAdQ0M
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?93Please respect copyright.PENANAI4zfKLgfRA
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,93Please respect copyright.PENANAF4rcIJrdII
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,93Please respect copyright.PENANAtT7O2g4eZH
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。93Please respect copyright.PENANAsJ7Jyyv8wP
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,93Please respect copyright.PENANAVvIGl5TTGM
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,93Please respect copyright.PENANA31jnsgAAxW
這不是我胡亂杜撰。93Please respect copyright.PENANAgBeaoZrVJZ
如此的話,93Please respect copyright.PENANAPRZn0tk4tR
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?93Please respect copyright.PENANAWWGy57goRk
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,93Please respect copyright.PENANASrgVaHrkFw
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。93Please respect copyright.PENANAZWMcyQe2ce
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不過,93Please respect copyright.PENANAcUXQOK0jR0
鍾仁宇更大的錯,93Please respect copyright.PENANAwGqLk5nlW2
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,93Please respect copyright.PENANAmiuClgOqau
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,93Please respect copyright.PENANApNUus5Wm1n
反而令到感情生活更豐富。93Please respect copyright.PENANAR5SbziQGZ9
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,93Please respect copyright.PENANAM8HrMgWT9y
又怎會落得被利用的下場?93Please respect copyright.PENANAk3epKng27v
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,93Please respect copyright.PENANAEZhMhTD1hk
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,93Please respect copyright.PENANAx5fZotSWOU
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,93Please respect copyright.PENANAZRaJaBRkLe
我無十分認真看過這電影,93Please respect copyright.PENANAIMMs88nfsK
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。93Please respect copyright.PENANAyg5zGsZUbo
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。93Please respect copyright.PENANABTs2Ha7E6U
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讀者們,93Please respect copyright.PENANAOSJqROkzrw
如果你是鍾仁宇,93Please respect copyright.PENANA6AS344q5qy
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?93Please respect copyright.PENANA8S97w2w2YG
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》93Please respect copyright.PENANA7nuwFfRvwF
戀愛心理,第四回。