
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,109Please respect copyright.PENANAljs1Fi4PNu
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,109Please respect copyright.PENANAw9lqe5mLfH
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。109Please respect copyright.PENANA1lmA1FVoAD
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,109Please respect copyright.PENANASU1pPuiVlR
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,109Please respect copyright.PENANARWCAHVOHuw
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,109Please respect copyright.PENANAI25eLRTv7A
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。109Please respect copyright.PENANA6ZGnXO8cB4
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,109Please respect copyright.PENANAy6qCBSdFO6
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。109Please respect copyright.PENANApavuXfXlsH
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。109Please respect copyright.PENANAQClUoIIX6L
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那隻驢子本來不用死,109Please respect copyright.PENANA2rAqC6A6ab
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。109Please respect copyright.PENANAGROufYGYdr
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,109Please respect copyright.PENANAJ3Ja7FLfS3
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,109Please respect copyright.PENANAWRk2VA55GO
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,109Please respect copyright.PENANAZblAqAkpfV
以免自取其辱。109Please respect copyright.PENANAVqWoR2b9gj
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,109Please respect copyright.PENANAquj3xuniLJ
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,109Please respect copyright.PENANAqQfl8lVapb
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,109Please respect copyright.PENANATpKXy4Qv2N
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。109Please respect copyright.PENANApIyRaiaFr4
就算不是萍水相逢,109Please respect copyright.PENANAZyTFtE4N27
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,109Please respect copyright.PENANAJNKIzYfUq9
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。109Please respect copyright.PENANAL1jsLUiFgp
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,109Please respect copyright.PENANASvXfzohZDM
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。109Please respect copyright.PENANA1QFM8C14NN
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,109Please respect copyright.PENANAhrdPqm7kFs
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,109Please respect copyright.PENANAFyTsD5Nyl1
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,109Please respect copyright.PENANAsOonGMZ7Wl
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,109Please respect copyright.PENANAWDLxX9EwUv
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。109Please respect copyright.PENANA0AFOAuE4T4
其實,109Please respect copyright.PENANAedn3IRfH3A
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,109Please respect copyright.PENANASrZUndU3Av
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。109Please respect copyright.PENANARIq21kA9V7
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,109Please respect copyright.PENANAZQULZ8d81H
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,109Please respect copyright.PENANAmDyPcrLh59
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,109Please respect copyright.PENANAF7yo3lhwAD
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,109Please respect copyright.PENANAN7fEXibvpF
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,109Please respect copyright.PENANATyhkcFQHGa
即是「第一印象」,109Please respect copyright.PENANAo59LLV81f2
這些教導大家都會說得到。109Please respect copyright.PENANAN30KebNMvQ
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但不約而同地,109Please respect copyright.PENANA6V7gBAimR6
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,109Please respect copyright.PENANAjTEPyYDAnS
不主動提及就視為不存在。109Please respect copyright.PENANAYWecYyrkAg
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,109Please respect copyright.PENANAVsHTepqOQn
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?109Please respect copyright.PENANAUchcnEsBOl
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,109Please respect copyright.PENANAke7WEWY5yh
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,109Please respect copyright.PENANAv6flocAjir
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。109Please respect copyright.PENANAMEWdQjUsLQ
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,109Please respect copyright.PENANAQmYrrSv000
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,109Please respect copyright.PENANApFdAPcab4o
這不是我胡亂杜撰。109Please respect copyright.PENANAIb5H8yoTOY
如此的話,109Please respect copyright.PENANAWGj7jX8I37
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?109Please respect copyright.PENANArAPrmvFbyM
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,109Please respect copyright.PENANAPzkaI3lYei
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。109Please respect copyright.PENANAnPO5do9uDA
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不過,109Please respect copyright.PENANAeKNzCxELTD
鍾仁宇更大的錯,109Please respect copyright.PENANA81TgMzufZ2
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,109Please respect copyright.PENANA2Z3jYw05tS
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,109Please respect copyright.PENANAP69HEcxu7z
反而令到感情生活更豐富。109Please respect copyright.PENANA1BHp6WoJP6
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,109Please respect copyright.PENANAOY64sGWsRx
又怎會落得被利用的下場?109Please respect copyright.PENANA2JIgaVpn5S
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,109Please respect copyright.PENANAdxkpoXtCUW
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,109Please respect copyright.PENANADxUNMwOFIu
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,109Please respect copyright.PENANAHPWWAIlpyq
我無十分認真看過這電影,109Please respect copyright.PENANA24XXmAXCSm
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。109Please respect copyright.PENANAFantjH9BhH
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。109Please respect copyright.PENANACHPnfi3kPD
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讀者們,109Please respect copyright.PENANAoeGT08ulUD
如果你是鍾仁宇,109Please respect copyright.PENANA70wq7gVptq
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?109Please respect copyright.PENANAatAIKwdFSQ
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》109Please respect copyright.PENANAguFej46GPx
戀愛心理,第四回。