
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,67Please respect copyright.PENANAs6588ZIDHO
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,67Please respect copyright.PENANAF9as5sC5MK
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。67Please respect copyright.PENANAruA2phoxoG
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,67Please respect copyright.PENANAaiVpl92XrT
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,67Please respect copyright.PENANA8ZCijlGJFO
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,67Please respect copyright.PENANAGEdbv2CfU7
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。67Please respect copyright.PENANAtD58PbXGwp
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,67Please respect copyright.PENANAAd8wxbvxnD
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。67Please respect copyright.PENANAonfZJ3NT5b
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。67Please respect copyright.PENANAHr0euGq6n9
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那隻驢子本來不用死,67Please respect copyright.PENANATipXmSYKiB
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。67Please respect copyright.PENANAnDVLvKRNdG
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,67Please respect copyright.PENANA2FkJ1H42PI
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,67Please respect copyright.PENANAohAINHa8Nz
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,67Please respect copyright.PENANAD6R4aJlX0a
以免自取其辱。67Please respect copyright.PENANA8z1KdLpFOi
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,67Please respect copyright.PENANAejKH4nei4t
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,67Please respect copyright.PENANA6afWbcGYub
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,67Please respect copyright.PENANA4UXrJR3DL3
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。67Please respect copyright.PENANAMyDEd0rJQw
就算不是萍水相逢,67Please respect copyright.PENANAjrr4EaGtrx
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,67Please respect copyright.PENANAxXwZpQgtD9
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。67Please respect copyright.PENANAbr86TglsVT
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,67Please respect copyright.PENANA2Hly1oRPU5
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。67Please respect copyright.PENANAQKvEmqyzpP
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,67Please respect copyright.PENANAxTMQ9vVB6j
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,67Please respect copyright.PENANAmaBHQEU3Sn
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,67Please respect copyright.PENANANfKBvhGG0G
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,67Please respect copyright.PENANASAlyo1ZHU6
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。67Please respect copyright.PENANASOLRKyGL0d
其實,67Please respect copyright.PENANA4VBQ3ided3
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,67Please respect copyright.PENANAZt9gnBh5rr
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。67Please respect copyright.PENANAuw5VjicQWm
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,67Please respect copyright.PENANA1YwqyF844T
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,67Please respect copyright.PENANAiz4EMt78Z2
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,67Please respect copyright.PENANAu0yy449vsY
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,67Please respect copyright.PENANAszJFerWKVr
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,67Please respect copyright.PENANAWgicbKqfwp
即是「第一印象」,67Please respect copyright.PENANAEKAmT7Dg8t
這些教導大家都會說得到。67Please respect copyright.PENANABUvxPHBdho
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但不約而同地,67Please respect copyright.PENANAzovEWW0cma
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,67Please respect copyright.PENANAsfaLT89RoC
不主動提及就視為不存在。67Please respect copyright.PENANAO1nQA4wzQv
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,67Please respect copyright.PENANAgVKq7E4bLU
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?67Please respect copyright.PENANApcapija08Z
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,67Please respect copyright.PENANAZufDSfKxtU
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,67Please respect copyright.PENANArQkPxET2V6
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。67Please respect copyright.PENANAaxzH5vWLaR
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,67Please respect copyright.PENANAYsFzoZPMGC
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,67Please respect copyright.PENANAa02lIVaISl
這不是我胡亂杜撰。67Please respect copyright.PENANAEDmPhkfH1f
如此的話,67Please respect copyright.PENANA0mf48i3P49
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?67Please respect copyright.PENANAM1lhXSS8Te
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,67Please respect copyright.PENANAZHAiik8HOH
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。67Please respect copyright.PENANALf1lMkC0k3
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不過,67Please respect copyright.PENANA4KqAZ2Nvb9
鍾仁宇更大的錯,67Please respect copyright.PENANA0V6rYunuDE
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,67Please respect copyright.PENANALF3EcauNLz
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,67Please respect copyright.PENANAw3Ak2TSw4F
反而令到感情生活更豐富。67Please respect copyright.PENANAil3FIoU1Ai
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,67Please respect copyright.PENANA9xGgpQ1ijj
又怎會落得被利用的下場?67Please respect copyright.PENANA0K07qXvOOH
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,67Please respect copyright.PENANA4i0VheLLKE
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,67Please respect copyright.PENANANL5ivbJI1o
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,67Please respect copyright.PENANATZXYag74hX
我無十分認真看過這電影,67Please respect copyright.PENANABy0WITeitf
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。67Please respect copyright.PENANAHwdjInGNUu
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。67Please respect copyright.PENANABBrgdH7e5D
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讀者們,67Please respect copyright.PENANAzInJRx9oPH
如果你是鍾仁宇,67Please respect copyright.PENANAmIZPzf9sAF
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?67Please respect copyright.PENANAETL58SnLK8
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》67Please respect copyright.PENANAubPGO90ZNG
戀愛心理,第四回。