今天久違的去女僕店~23Please respect copyright.PENANAyt5Ag7lLGZ
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAmFWG2WnVA8
以至於我今天臨時改題目。23Please respect copyright.PENANAqmCJbqRlzg
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,23Please respect copyright.PENANA4N4ohdQY4Q
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,23Please respect copyright.PENANAKVUaJktKKL
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,23Please respect copyright.PENANA7T5aGOERgw
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...23Please respect copyright.PENANAcjnrk70gOp
第一次是當著我的面前,23Please respect copyright.PENANAFNhxFhVKYf
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAlXHxyE0MpA
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...23Please respect copyright.PENANACSbyIU4uu0
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...23Please respect copyright.PENANAss9qjcOkFn
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAjc3ODUJWNS
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,23Please respect copyright.PENANAF8by9LCNWu
因為發生得太快了,23Please respect copyright.PENANAs2oAqazoW5
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAYmYWb0FpF1
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...23Please respect copyright.PENANAOwQCe6bXbO
讓我傷心的是,23Please respect copyright.PENANAvbt5paIyYi
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,23Please respect copyright.PENANARLkFvYEPhv
其他都是男客人。23Please respect copyright.PENANAcyXU02Q5sZ
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANACc4F3RRtz5
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAdsa9v1XhEy
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...23Please respect copyright.PENANAimHIiFOrYH
因為是背對著我的動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAxPIcdqkauM
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,23Please respect copyright.PENANAGfqeDNvqPy
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,23Please respect copyright.PENANA9QTukZttpl
但我覺得即使是女僕,23Please respect copyright.PENANAaSIKrgdZnX
以服務主人為名義,23Please respect copyright.PENANAar0NmGYGKM
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。23Please respect copyright.PENANAGMS0VoD5WX
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:23Please respect copyright.PENANACXh6KYzD7m
這就只是打情罵俏呀~23Please respect copyright.PENANAV5Ca1ZLY9g
「這樣很可愛」23Please respect copyright.PENANAkXCCAnxo4w
之類的...23Please respect copyright.PENANAbimqnE3OIW
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,23Please respect copyright.PENANAgKoKAZHmZS
相信不會有人說很可愛,23Please respect copyright.PENANApag5AbDB7a
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...23Please respect copyright.PENANA7fpQlnM1zn
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,23Please respect copyright.PENANA0IFai54TcE
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...23Please respect copyright.PENANA1YEKUUvARZ
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...23Please respect copyright.PENANAWRkJ9ZxtX8
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,23Please respect copyright.PENANAX3LlFoiKst
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...23Please respect copyright.PENANAU4Y60y7aYV
可是發生問題的當下,23Please respect copyright.PENANAvuFJHo6QFR
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,23Please respect copyright.PENANAjq2mdR02go
她說心情有被我影響...23Please respect copyright.PENANAaJuBUHoY80
然而我跟她解釋,23Please respect copyright.PENANAfhB8BwXChQ
我還是會去光顧~23Please respect copyright.PENANAgV3de2xbNL
因為說真的發生這種事情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAXhqe8l03PN
我如果出手,23Please respect copyright.PENANAXUI75WmZz0
場面會很尷尬,23Please respect copyright.PENANA9XQKvZzm71
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...23Please respect copyright.PENANAJq7tFvwPVs
終究我只能安慰自己:23Please respect copyright.PENANA17qtJAgkyf
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...23Please respect copyright.PENANAI3BapAFC7g
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,23Please respect copyright.PENANAZeNlqv9U8H
但是把事情跟二姊說,23Please respect copyright.PENANABNX6PfyXX2
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,23Please respect copyright.PENANAgW1raiWCNS
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,23Please respect copyright.PENANAb1dodttW1V
如果是學長的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANATImdaTk98j
他會怎麼做呢?23Please respect copyright.PENANAUdEtuEeusI
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,23Please respect copyright.PENANAfjSlv5wT4o
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,23Please respect copyright.PENANAJglZMCF7ON
我想第一種可能的做法是:23Please respect copyright.PENANAhpn2Wz7ZXT
學長可能會說:23Please respect copyright.PENANA1NMoId0qdd
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」23Please respect copyright.PENANAOJL9iFQvOa
一方面是讓加害者知道,23Please respect copyright.PENANAPqAYHF3EBH
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,23Please respect copyright.PENANA1St4Krsvmv
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。23Please respect copyright.PENANAMu0iL2Mf3Z(有下次就把你送去性平會)23Please respect copyright.PENANA7wzjzGpm1m
第二種可能的做法是,23Please respect copyright.PENANAM7pcUMDRAQ
事情發生後,23Please respect copyright.PENANAyiAmvbRX2H
等Staff走遠,23Please respect copyright.PENANAFUUI0ikM3s
學長會問女僕:23Please respect copyright.PENANAGHPKFJbm0o
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,23Please respect copyright.PENANAVEF6jzxxr1
怕他傷到妳了~」23Please respect copyright.PENANAOhuOoKHpzd
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。23Please respect copyright.PENANAO4RKh1NEMD
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,23Please respect copyright.PENANA5OQCUwRoFk
也是讓女僕意識到,23Please respect copyright.PENANAaV7jZSyEur
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,23Please respect copyright.PENANA5doCjs0Dny
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...23Please respect copyright.PENANAU8am34ZbMi
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。23Please respect copyright.PENANAwImFqmrXat
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,23Please respect copyright.PENANAtwbeI0rjaX
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,23Please respect copyright.PENANAaTAC5qAh3o
其實跟第二種的差別就是:23Please respect copyright.PENANAqukSScaPEv
改用寫的。23Please respect copyright.PENANABdLTNANcLz
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,23Please respect copyright.PENANAmTkT74LU5j
用寫的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANAtCQZCISJxu
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,23Please respect copyright.PENANA4ajoJNK4Vt
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,23Please respect copyright.PENANA7PNt2kYmg4
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),23Please respect copyright.PENANAXLujNUgmcX
當然也可能微笑置之不理。23Please respect copyright.PENANA4PphiclSi1
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)23Please respect copyright.PENANAZuCOG0tbYx
總之,23Please respect copyright.PENANAEwla7pP5lG
客人也會心理不安,23Please respect copyright.PENANAbxwG6zJhpu
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。23Please respect copyright.PENANATOuROLLNMP
如果Staff有這種小動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAlCjEzY5x0i
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAYe5452hgDw
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)23Please respect copyright.PENANAFIa8HDUDK5
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,23Please respect copyright.PENANAeNgjIyaUTq
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...23Please respect copyright.PENANAtbT525CTQG
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,23Please respect copyright.PENANAQ3d53iO4SQ
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...23Please respect copyright.PENANAsLGdUTmCSl
(會犯的人就是會犯)23Please respect copyright.PENANAcZQmrUUn1M
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,23Please respect copyright.PENANAobETC9trCL
比起只是在心裡想,23Please respect copyright.PENANAJFnUjYcRdB
也許有那麼一天,23Please respect copyright.PENANAx64NaMEqu8
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~23Please respect copyright.PENANAtjtggZlS8E
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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