今天久違的去女僕店~28Please respect copyright.PENANAjcbSuC7ZWG
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,28Please respect copyright.PENANA3bcz64fKMa
以至於我今天臨時改題目。28Please respect copyright.PENANA1sXOfmvkoW
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,28Please respect copyright.PENANAqeVaZMOe4m
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,28Please respect copyright.PENANAErGOZ3bjDx
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,28Please respect copyright.PENANAhdkyOJNjTO
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...28Please respect copyright.PENANAqMHXKVFCVP
第一次是當著我的面前,28Please respect copyright.PENANAhhVYs22xaz
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANAEhGAn6vU77
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...28Please respect copyright.PENANAwfBHi3OWid
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...28Please respect copyright.PENANAg3gKVwZRxy
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,28Please respect copyright.PENANANbHrPaWcEm
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,28Please respect copyright.PENANANpzhtTYTBp
因為發生得太快了,28Please respect copyright.PENANAsNM6cEitXk
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANAbqHb0UzJMP
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...28Please respect copyright.PENANAu7Z09gFsQ5
讓我傷心的是,28Please respect copyright.PENANAxBusGoY1CV
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,28Please respect copyright.PENANAFwrqUn8LFb
其他都是男客人。28Please respect copyright.PENANAIMg3Qj2VrV
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,28Please respect copyright.PENANAvju9BIfHFh
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANAulfU409MdQ
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...28Please respect copyright.PENANApo3acL1Scz
因為是背對著我的動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANAHabgrj7G2X
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,28Please respect copyright.PENANArZW3asuy6n
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,28Please respect copyright.PENANA23YaqRBs1f
但我覺得即使是女僕,28Please respect copyright.PENANAvNygQ6I4Ol
以服務主人為名義,28Please respect copyright.PENANAHPA5mACIdR
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。28Please respect copyright.PENANADDifHdxTAv
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:28Please respect copyright.PENANAUwof81uMJ8
這就只是打情罵俏呀~28Please respect copyright.PENANA0P2iMZyO9K
「這樣很可愛」28Please respect copyright.PENANAHIygY5xHs9
之類的...28Please respect copyright.PENANAehJ6d7Q3Y7
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,28Please respect copyright.PENANAKt34LxNf6p
相信不會有人說很可愛,28Please respect copyright.PENANAvBr7CftGNO
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...28Please respect copyright.PENANAKXl1QzdeTS
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,28Please respect copyright.PENANAVnKNquZQNs
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...28Please respect copyright.PENANAbsAJ4G1MG4
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...28Please respect copyright.PENANATRXFOqXWfB
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,28Please respect copyright.PENANAFrhXMOHP0E
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...28Please respect copyright.PENANA9DW5QVXNko
可是發生問題的當下,28Please respect copyright.PENANAimtFY0SfbT
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,28Please respect copyright.PENANAbtIH3Ixrwo
她說心情有被我影響...28Please respect copyright.PENANA0RDksoRxKu
然而我跟她解釋,28Please respect copyright.PENANAditDeXZzj1
我還是會去光顧~28Please respect copyright.PENANAyf8sRVhz0y
因為說真的發生這種事情,28Please respect copyright.PENANA4PgAsDAHQn
我如果出手,28Please respect copyright.PENANABhdh3Rgh5w
場面會很尷尬,28Please respect copyright.PENANACe9goeXlhP
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...28Please respect copyright.PENANA00iW3YDS89
終究我只能安慰自己:28Please respect copyright.PENANAu8hFjXw5qb
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...28Please respect copyright.PENANAFjzKkDwBNn
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,28Please respect copyright.PENANAurkzLb1zGr
但是把事情跟二姊說,28Please respect copyright.PENANAvra4Ov5OX6
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,28Please respect copyright.PENANAFs4Ip0nmGJ
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,28Please respect copyright.PENANABiUu9OYads
如果是學長的話,28Please respect copyright.PENANAi8xYptLLwW
他會怎麼做呢?28Please respect copyright.PENANAAJzVq6co3k
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,28Please respect copyright.PENANAki752B1LwD
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,28Please respect copyright.PENANAKKA1SAiEAD
我想第一種可能的做法是:28Please respect copyright.PENANAPMKemxdGiU
學長可能會說:28Please respect copyright.PENANAFUSOL321Q4
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」28Please respect copyright.PENANAU4zxLTSXTD
一方面是讓加害者知道,28Please respect copyright.PENANAgEFOHMQ3Ll
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,28Please respect copyright.PENANAPeBITrEeDn
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。28Please respect copyright.PENANAoL1pHh882O(有下次就把你送去性平會)28Please respect copyright.PENANAQSShDrb13C
第二種可能的做法是,28Please respect copyright.PENANAhJ1pYwESgM
事情發生後,28Please respect copyright.PENANAP0fH8rODeF
等Staff走遠,28Please respect copyright.PENANAhjCt8hbgK6
學長會問女僕:28Please respect copyright.PENANAH6aEL7Hyud
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,28Please respect copyright.PENANAzNZP78OUtV
怕他傷到妳了~」28Please respect copyright.PENANALv0ZRo6qj9
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。28Please respect copyright.PENANA7Ae5FGm30y
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,28Please respect copyright.PENANAZAR3StHZ0Z
也是讓女僕意識到,28Please respect copyright.PENANAIwk5MUIBdb
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,28Please respect copyright.PENANAoX4yHojckj
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...28Please respect copyright.PENANAXjNzvRf7mf
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。28Please respect copyright.PENANAkLVWOJSTjF
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,28Please respect copyright.PENANA4rLhp2bbvt
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,28Please respect copyright.PENANAv7Awtnm6DU
其實跟第二種的差別就是:28Please respect copyright.PENANAeC4NLqeqPL
改用寫的。28Please respect copyright.PENANAptRYAXoXyF
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,28Please respect copyright.PENANAB8xOnrCU4a
用寫的話,28Please respect copyright.PENANAxLkFP601ow
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,28Please respect copyright.PENANAhQ3AscQtIH
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,28Please respect copyright.PENANALYwvfatrQQ
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),28Please respect copyright.PENANA2Ir8pzuAxI
當然也可能微笑置之不理。28Please respect copyright.PENANARNlWso7LZR
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)28Please respect copyright.PENANA5R5qwraBe7
總之,28Please respect copyright.PENANAIIgM52QImk
客人也會心理不安,28Please respect copyright.PENANAkTBvsY2Iuj
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。28Please respect copyright.PENANANBLH0TDa82
如果Staff有這種小動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANADuHFKADI8P
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,28Please respect copyright.PENANAvLadkFm6p5
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)28Please respect copyright.PENANA17HoDIOnWA
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,28Please respect copyright.PENANAuQzK82hjOU
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...28Please respect copyright.PENANAgoLk8XLUD5
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,28Please respect copyright.PENANA7jvQTcIra5
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...28Please respect copyright.PENANAO6HsBti8Ul
(會犯的人就是會犯)28Please respect copyright.PENANAVZmi73al7j
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,28Please respect copyright.PENANAi1DlQ5TjbH
比起只是在心裡想,28Please respect copyright.PENANA2zCnlEesdb
也許有那麼一天,28Please respect copyright.PENANAD1K6dnI3OS
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~28Please respect copyright.PENANA530r3kOyr2
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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