今天久違的去女僕店~38Please respect copyright.PENANAvr1GpOkKbV
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,38Please respect copyright.PENANA1oEzO6ML7y
以至於我今天臨時改題目。38Please respect copyright.PENANAKde1cews1b
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,38Please respect copyright.PENANARmTkGJAyWx
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,38Please respect copyright.PENANAU06bfYq29H
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,38Please respect copyright.PENANA2g4Hk1f46U
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...38Please respect copyright.PENANA8jd0XMOvoR
第一次是當著我的面前,38Please respect copyright.PENANAx3Y34Gbp71
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANAUznosWjmk1
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...38Please respect copyright.PENANAIbUEasaSWN
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...38Please respect copyright.PENANA2BzN8D50II
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,38Please respect copyright.PENANAZgvtca7GGA
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,38Please respect copyright.PENANADpqHccnfnF
因為發生得太快了,38Please respect copyright.PENANACrN3peMFIj
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANA9KTGHOvd2b
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...38Please respect copyright.PENANAQWAm8EQ2es
讓我傷心的是,38Please respect copyright.PENANAmChgJM2TNK
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,38Please respect copyright.PENANAgh4M2og1V6
其他都是男客人。38Please respect copyright.PENANAdZaiXdMrvU
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,38Please respect copyright.PENANAgvSS0Q7HDg
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANAqr3o8rMqe7
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...38Please respect copyright.PENANADhlPSrpXeP
因為是背對著我的動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANAAjngA0RaeR
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,38Please respect copyright.PENANAJYIe2EwBLq
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,38Please respect copyright.PENANA5W9xc0b9LJ
但我覺得即使是女僕,38Please respect copyright.PENANAGd0tJiX4UI
以服務主人為名義,38Please respect copyright.PENANApC3sZYlmQW
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。38Please respect copyright.PENANAoBpO3Mk062
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:38Please respect copyright.PENANA5WmtkEj2qQ
這就只是打情罵俏呀~38Please respect copyright.PENANAOCYM1ZvSCR
「這樣很可愛」38Please respect copyright.PENANA6ogNhl0n7Y
之類的...38Please respect copyright.PENANASqsu6SXYai
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,38Please respect copyright.PENANAir2UbvuKV9
相信不會有人說很可愛,38Please respect copyright.PENANAVpKqVXncLx
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...38Please respect copyright.PENANAeioPGmF8oK
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,38Please respect copyright.PENANAaBQiIXbzDE
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...38Please respect copyright.PENANAbnKvVjkeSh
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...38Please respect copyright.PENANAlt1FxbPPxC
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,38Please respect copyright.PENANAkaaSh3yQtU
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...38Please respect copyright.PENANAh3ghM24eRD
可是發生問題的當下,38Please respect copyright.PENANArbnmtT8koj
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,38Please respect copyright.PENANA5KzuVrTVZ6
她說心情有被我影響...38Please respect copyright.PENANAxtmiOToOI4
然而我跟她解釋,38Please respect copyright.PENANAVW1vfUIJNY
我還是會去光顧~38Please respect copyright.PENANAci1g4pP0I7
因為說真的發生這種事情,38Please respect copyright.PENANAjX6PwvO2JC
我如果出手,38Please respect copyright.PENANAAx7tc8jfQf
場面會很尷尬,38Please respect copyright.PENANApRlJQFqzXJ
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...38Please respect copyright.PENANADGgFPTWb7R
終究我只能安慰自己:38Please respect copyright.PENANANKTZKHphCs
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...38Please respect copyright.PENANAf0nNyOcq53
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,38Please respect copyright.PENANAICEAtHuwiF
但是把事情跟二姊說,38Please respect copyright.PENANAByu9XBz3ss
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,38Please respect copyright.PENANAhcvIv51ek0
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,38Please respect copyright.PENANAulqhVpW9Db
如果是學長的話,38Please respect copyright.PENANA20Y3XHTEeK
他會怎麼做呢?38Please respect copyright.PENANA6oMvLRXzR3
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,38Please respect copyright.PENANAmqd3exPBuY
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,38Please respect copyright.PENANANU81nS4qHK
我想第一種可能的做法是:38Please respect copyright.PENANAl3seljRve5
學長可能會說:38Please respect copyright.PENANADqgawMdiuY
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」38Please respect copyright.PENANA02VSlxQGWv
一方面是讓加害者知道,38Please respect copyright.PENANAPDWwQHSDHu
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,38Please respect copyright.PENANAWuAVRMdA1Y
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。38Please respect copyright.PENANAJOwA4EorPN(有下次就把你送去性平會)38Please respect copyright.PENANAzbLlljlvYE
第二種可能的做法是,38Please respect copyright.PENANAd0VWgCimo7
事情發生後,38Please respect copyright.PENANAXVu3SHqloH
等Staff走遠,38Please respect copyright.PENANAYiRQiBkPKh
學長會問女僕:38Please respect copyright.PENANAlLs7ReSftw
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,38Please respect copyright.PENANAnSJkjfohsK
怕他傷到妳了~」38Please respect copyright.PENANANpJPaiqfLI
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。38Please respect copyright.PENANAFR7w6Ho1vA
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,38Please respect copyright.PENANAeGKVz3Ci5q
也是讓女僕意識到,38Please respect copyright.PENANAUzflbMTTNw
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,38Please respect copyright.PENANAHjps7DbAzv
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...38Please respect copyright.PENANAXKrF5cnhm8
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。38Please respect copyright.PENANAiJPVwdpOeZ
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,38Please respect copyright.PENANADRP1Tg5xyG
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,38Please respect copyright.PENANAXi5sEZGIIX
其實跟第二種的差別就是:38Please respect copyright.PENANAjIEv5W7AGj
改用寫的。38Please respect copyright.PENANAXXwzUJdlwm
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,38Please respect copyright.PENANACdp14qG33z
用寫的話,38Please respect copyright.PENANAEYzOPRviS4
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,38Please respect copyright.PENANA4ebRR5OgFt
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,38Please respect copyright.PENANA9UaW1Pvbzf
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),38Please respect copyright.PENANA09PlxMnVKg
當然也可能微笑置之不理。38Please respect copyright.PENANAH6xAGq5L4c
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)38Please respect copyright.PENANAOwdCuJLI1f
總之,38Please respect copyright.PENANAmqdj3k9LEC
客人也會心理不安,38Please respect copyright.PENANA8a6vCGfXPa
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。38Please respect copyright.PENANAAK0n7QE5Fg
如果Staff有這種小動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANAnnf0QR6mAn
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,38Please respect copyright.PENANApepytfVOvl
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)38Please respect copyright.PENANATZKL68dRZS
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,38Please respect copyright.PENANApbO72RGha9
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...38Please respect copyright.PENANAd2qH5j1gIp
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,38Please respect copyright.PENANAQz31tLSdKZ
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...38Please respect copyright.PENANAv47eCka1Wi
(會犯的人就是會犯)38Please respect copyright.PENANAc3An4AhRTC
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,38Please respect copyright.PENANARCTrsCpGWz
比起只是在心裡想,38Please respect copyright.PENANAxmWSHzbucL
也許有那麼一天,38Please respect copyright.PENANAJRSW9w4ug0
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~38Please respect copyright.PENANADkCtuaB44G
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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