今天久違的去女僕店~23Please respect copyright.PENANAsBEwM1qdFH
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAK25lhqhsST
以至於我今天臨時改題目。23Please respect copyright.PENANAFWFNG7awWe
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,23Please respect copyright.PENANAyIh2QNOlIH
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,23Please respect copyright.PENANASg3bCm6RIb
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,23Please respect copyright.PENANA04ogjEBB2Q
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...23Please respect copyright.PENANA6kcmdkd7rS
第一次是當著我的面前,23Please respect copyright.PENANA27pfjeacvW
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAuwTAR0ND3s
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...23Please respect copyright.PENANAJJw0L7q8QQ
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...23Please respect copyright.PENANAKUHrn2u9ee
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAFCydCkPELz
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,23Please respect copyright.PENANA1SgVwf90ah
因為發生得太快了,23Please respect copyright.PENANA5cs3lAcIZ6
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAX69lkgJNkg
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...23Please respect copyright.PENANAGOcWoqOW6I
讓我傷心的是,23Please respect copyright.PENANA4QEUk1duYV
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,23Please respect copyright.PENANA69VB0VsNUa
其他都是男客人。23Please respect copyright.PENANAG8v1SXMAhQ
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANAk4vWbrrUiO
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAAsa26JhRDB
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...23Please respect copyright.PENANAgFq6O9dLdD
因為是背對著我的動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAAepvX0LH7w
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,23Please respect copyright.PENANAYyXpH4PhIu
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,23Please respect copyright.PENANAJoSf0f13OY
但我覺得即使是女僕,23Please respect copyright.PENANAgaylcgvFZg
以服務主人為名義,23Please respect copyright.PENANAQQ9hjAvahe
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。23Please respect copyright.PENANAvrhJ7votde
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:23Please respect copyright.PENANAb4CI137QxL
這就只是打情罵俏呀~23Please respect copyright.PENANABE9kUuYAwh
「這樣很可愛」23Please respect copyright.PENANA85xmt4Ko3s
之類的...23Please respect copyright.PENANAiFbUwOyKgs
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,23Please respect copyright.PENANAtBiic9Ev2O
相信不會有人說很可愛,23Please respect copyright.PENANAbjPOH7E2Hu
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...23Please respect copyright.PENANAcLgZHOHKPv
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,23Please respect copyright.PENANAcb7pKF36Ki
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...23Please respect copyright.PENANA7l62MXcvr3
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...23Please respect copyright.PENANAedYNySwosl
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,23Please respect copyright.PENANAFpqFEc9IT5
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...23Please respect copyright.PENANASjo9xhsOqd
可是發生問題的當下,23Please respect copyright.PENANA5kMsSJsGxI
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,23Please respect copyright.PENANAvXnY3uiBzV
她說心情有被我影響...23Please respect copyright.PENANA8LXksh4iV1
然而我跟她解釋,23Please respect copyright.PENANAVBWvLyM8Kp
我還是會去光顧~23Please respect copyright.PENANASdfl89XGt5
因為說真的發生這種事情,23Please respect copyright.PENANAvt3Rp8JoEP
我如果出手,23Please respect copyright.PENANAGpboW9w4Ne
場面會很尷尬,23Please respect copyright.PENANAEEUiLsDQ7B
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...23Please respect copyright.PENANApirq8XJ1hk
終究我只能安慰自己:23Please respect copyright.PENANA7YnKWOA0b9
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...23Please respect copyright.PENANAodElmWM17J
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,23Please respect copyright.PENANAtaq5eh0AIH
但是把事情跟二姊說,23Please respect copyright.PENANAwPneuS7QB6
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,23Please respect copyright.PENANAPzVQEL09n3
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,23Please respect copyright.PENANAkW2HUnWZTc
如果是學長的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANAk43mCZcVUX
他會怎麼做呢?23Please respect copyright.PENANAzymWstLUI0
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,23Please respect copyright.PENANAjGjLZer5qz
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,23Please respect copyright.PENANAHDlPu1wYVC
我想第一種可能的做法是:23Please respect copyright.PENANAbamZJTBSmR
學長可能會說:23Please respect copyright.PENANApfOfSAKqcS
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」23Please respect copyright.PENANAZ6rsK9WqcD
一方面是讓加害者知道,23Please respect copyright.PENANAGdY64OLJhQ
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,23Please respect copyright.PENANAg5wNYawX08
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。23Please respect copyright.PENANAignBFfkR7X(有下次就把你送去性平會)23Please respect copyright.PENANA3DpjGXKz9b
第二種可能的做法是,23Please respect copyright.PENANABGM07kmwFs
事情發生後,23Please respect copyright.PENANAd8xaODCbNI
等Staff走遠,23Please respect copyright.PENANAV0ee6QMQ4Z
學長會問女僕:23Please respect copyright.PENANAG5HK360cUe
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,23Please respect copyright.PENANA1lQeyCKWE1
怕他傷到妳了~」23Please respect copyright.PENANAiKL3PtdFIb
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。23Please respect copyright.PENANAwhNGsiBLcS
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,23Please respect copyright.PENANAofXcKQNBj4
也是讓女僕意識到,23Please respect copyright.PENANAYmWkvyteLe
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,23Please respect copyright.PENANA0oqLP0hLYg
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...23Please respect copyright.PENANAx1uJJjciSC
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。23Please respect copyright.PENANAOBuyjyACaw
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,23Please respect copyright.PENANAE0ExAVAXvy
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,23Please respect copyright.PENANADUKlDve4eY
其實跟第二種的差別就是:23Please respect copyright.PENANA991NvE1RTe
改用寫的。23Please respect copyright.PENANAfcS8v6VJns
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,23Please respect copyright.PENANAsCVl5mFz30
用寫的話,23Please respect copyright.PENANAXf5RRgerQB
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,23Please respect copyright.PENANA7H6fQSYzf6
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,23Please respect copyright.PENANAlj5RfhAqYT
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),23Please respect copyright.PENANAxJZGzk0EXY
當然也可能微笑置之不理。23Please respect copyright.PENANAG2jJ169uof
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)23Please respect copyright.PENANALpNx0xXv0x
總之,23Please respect copyright.PENANACOeFPLP0xI
客人也會心理不安,23Please respect copyright.PENANAcH2IS4GbMs
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。23Please respect copyright.PENANAGrSIkDRi6t
如果Staff有這種小動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAdw63HFY8ce
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,23Please respect copyright.PENANAgzHYhH6JZr
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)23Please respect copyright.PENANAGrHjypyOCn
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,23Please respect copyright.PENANA9E0AISdQWs
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...23Please respect copyright.PENANAkOik5ZNuOG
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,23Please respect copyright.PENANAJXw4UZ5B91
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...23Please respect copyright.PENANAV8MRnexS8o
(會犯的人就是會犯)23Please respect copyright.PENANAWPqZH7KWHb
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,23Please respect copyright.PENANAcBs3RByTA4
比起只是在心裡想,23Please respect copyright.PENANAERxEwqVImO
也許有那麼一天,23Please respect copyright.PENANAuOP2OpwMLq
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~23Please respect copyright.PENANAVZtX8zWuYF
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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