今天久違的去女僕店~22Please respect copyright.PENANAyJjlD9ZMIX
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,22Please respect copyright.PENANAtt0xqqCTk6
以至於我今天臨時改題目。22Please respect copyright.PENANA84xFphMBzw
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,22Please respect copyright.PENANATX2fEuyfkq
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,22Please respect copyright.PENANAHax0HTrbSQ
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,22Please respect copyright.PENANA4SpH42yK9Y
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...22Please respect copyright.PENANAhYyHASuhSx
第一次是當著我的面前,22Please respect copyright.PENANATvSqGDsUoS
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANAKf58Roz64t
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...22Please respect copyright.PENANAp1FgZI5aXC
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...22Please respect copyright.PENANA1U5hAhY6YV
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,22Please respect copyright.PENANAKq11dpLe9m
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,22Please respect copyright.PENANASiVIy3UonY
因為發生得太快了,22Please respect copyright.PENANAR5cUO2A7QJ
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANAYIeFhbmlPO
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...22Please respect copyright.PENANAlvub6GVhLs
讓我傷心的是,22Please respect copyright.PENANA1etkv4OLUg
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,22Please respect copyright.PENANA2e83ZOf0SR
其他都是男客人。22Please respect copyright.PENANAg8rrrG5g5F
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,22Please respect copyright.PENANAnJvy2XxiSU
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANAbsx3PEinRO
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...22Please respect copyright.PENANAQKWtiha8Ba
因為是背對著我的動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANATQxnPyZMsM
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,22Please respect copyright.PENANAp7oOlsKLRL
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,22Please respect copyright.PENANAvJ9S2QIfmN
但我覺得即使是女僕,22Please respect copyright.PENANAjVnW7ORTlc
以服務主人為名義,22Please respect copyright.PENANAS1v6T6NmY4
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。22Please respect copyright.PENANAcVzhn7dNeU
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:22Please respect copyright.PENANApr7nmyqbCx
這就只是打情罵俏呀~22Please respect copyright.PENANAhQ3kJ04CDn
「這樣很可愛」22Please respect copyright.PENANANAXgIbdLX4
之類的...22Please respect copyright.PENANAr4OybpvwvQ
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,22Please respect copyright.PENANAQGuboO1DWW
相信不會有人說很可愛,22Please respect copyright.PENANAjRf7Lkn15y
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...22Please respect copyright.PENANADLip1yLvh0
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,22Please respect copyright.PENANAPoJJoLj1BE
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...22Please respect copyright.PENANAPnIkLg9p68
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...22Please respect copyright.PENANASjUdGG1ju3
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,22Please respect copyright.PENANA9o1ay3VyZV
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...22Please respect copyright.PENANAAujRcZc6uc
可是發生問題的當下,22Please respect copyright.PENANAhCgLxgCPgh
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,22Please respect copyright.PENANA29UtLr6Tpy
她說心情有被我影響...22Please respect copyright.PENANATkebCyyJhj
然而我跟她解釋,22Please respect copyright.PENANApGTAEFjuvW
我還是會去光顧~22Please respect copyright.PENANAEpLe2FaEUm
因為說真的發生這種事情,22Please respect copyright.PENANAejp6qlKjJr
我如果出手,22Please respect copyright.PENANABHlRCmCbWI
場面會很尷尬,22Please respect copyright.PENANAplxoygqubb
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...22Please respect copyright.PENANAu9wTvrPUOP
終究我只能安慰自己:22Please respect copyright.PENANAxaWhhSGMHT
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...22Please respect copyright.PENANAuwHnkFzdFm
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,22Please respect copyright.PENANAY01Wh5gf3P
但是把事情跟二姊說,22Please respect copyright.PENANA90fHCJUOEZ
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,22Please respect copyright.PENANAvTGxbF6cVb
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,22Please respect copyright.PENANANFYA6bpzfD
如果是學長的話,22Please respect copyright.PENANATBcPCwWynO
他會怎麼做呢?22Please respect copyright.PENANAJul0X35KGT
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,22Please respect copyright.PENANAAwg0skmQhW
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,22Please respect copyright.PENANAUCyYMxoBCT
我想第一種可能的做法是:22Please respect copyright.PENANAAo3QD5vs4c
學長可能會說:22Please respect copyright.PENANAlRUlPJFAsL
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」22Please respect copyright.PENANARDhrGxqoxu
一方面是讓加害者知道,22Please respect copyright.PENANAI0WBYX8Mvu
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,22Please respect copyright.PENANAcfvLIlXoYh
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。22Please respect copyright.PENANA3Et2uPBzvd(有下次就把你送去性平會)22Please respect copyright.PENANANb0MZaYEmJ
第二種可能的做法是,22Please respect copyright.PENANAOaNceuw8Rs
事情發生後,22Please respect copyright.PENANATHfmKad0VT
等Staff走遠,22Please respect copyright.PENANA38WhlUcJzf
學長會問女僕:22Please respect copyright.PENANASnz9BCLupV
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,22Please respect copyright.PENANAyoXBC1uGVL
怕他傷到妳了~」22Please respect copyright.PENANADvbR4MTFMe
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。22Please respect copyright.PENANAZhXMWPxOJK
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,22Please respect copyright.PENANAMpvkRnMxFg
也是讓女僕意識到,22Please respect copyright.PENANAjguXug5LbL
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,22Please respect copyright.PENANAtFTu8FQLXx
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...22Please respect copyright.PENANA3kJ3uvt3ic
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。22Please respect copyright.PENANASrpxg7kNIk
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,22Please respect copyright.PENANAGf28rMnDia
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,22Please respect copyright.PENANAFk3X3Ko2uW
其實跟第二種的差別就是:22Please respect copyright.PENANAXtSdLoNUHL
改用寫的。22Please respect copyright.PENANATEUDxENS0Z
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,22Please respect copyright.PENANADoHzJkjPYW
用寫的話,22Please respect copyright.PENANAu4wqd6Yzn4
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,22Please respect copyright.PENANA9BNBueuMqV
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,22Please respect copyright.PENANA2KpErrtnxe
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),22Please respect copyright.PENANAke0HvY8Ftm
當然也可能微笑置之不理。22Please respect copyright.PENANA766op5BZQd
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)22Please respect copyright.PENANAlt1JWjklkz
總之,22Please respect copyright.PENANAsjWwkd2AWt
客人也會心理不安,22Please respect copyright.PENANA6Pdflg7DUS
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。22Please respect copyright.PENANAIVueTsTtul
如果Staff有這種小動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANAX6ZCby6D2X
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,22Please respect copyright.PENANAzoVcPT86Vr
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)22Please respect copyright.PENANAnt3VHYutY2
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,22Please respect copyright.PENANAQ72Ym8AlsW
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...22Please respect copyright.PENANAQLix5fsyzG
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,22Please respect copyright.PENANAVzyfVVAhkx
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...22Please respect copyright.PENANAtnR1LKYA4m
(會犯的人就是會犯)22Please respect copyright.PENANAUUKjw5ZnRl
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,22Please respect copyright.PENANAfstK3iNwnV
比起只是在心裡想,22Please respect copyright.PENANATqmE1qz3TZ
也許有那麼一天,22Please respect copyright.PENANA95kDTbxGnb
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~22Please respect copyright.PENANAE8YNvVHFVb
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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