
69Please respect copyright.PENANAynXO6T6AbL
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,69Please respect copyright.PENANAiCwns89tp7
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。69Please respect copyright.PENANAiS6G8GFCCm
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,69Please respect copyright.PENANAssv2BiY2LM
利用大約45分鐘的時間,69Please respect copyright.PENANA0KCNo2Rqho
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,69Please respect copyright.PENANARmGHtdVDPN
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。69Please respect copyright.PENANAFvYLRVuPca
這36條問題分為三組,69Please respect copyright.PENANAhLQMCHwnpT
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;69Please respect copyright.PENANAjODdWtdrpx
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,69Please respect copyright.PENANAkAOlFdA7Eb
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。69Please respect copyright.PENANAVfyn85swPq
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事實上,69Please respect copyright.PENANAEUyNHu6Nv9
出題的人很有機心,69Please respect copyright.PENANAK4kuTKczOL
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,69Please respect copyright.PENANAoR7wteIyYe
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,69Please respect copyright.PENANAjoY1SZG4jX
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。69Please respect copyright.PENANAjkYARz7pKC
69Please respect copyright.PENANAU7k8jWit4e
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。69Please respect copyright.PENANAtcpScqUEE8
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:69Please respect copyright.PENANAu5pyP8adTe
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,69Please respect copyright.PENANAUvWREMWdje
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。69Please respect copyright.PENANAnDkRfYAZPv
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,69Please respect copyright.PENANArocpDE2CUB
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。69Please respect copyright.PENANACC5wXqeuw8
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,69Please respect copyright.PENANAvFQgJHQLHC
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:69Please respect copyright.PENANAmsWmD0QhJS
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出69Please respect copyright.PENANAvhei2B76pT
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點69Please respect copyright.PENANAPo5xmusAen
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解69Please respect copyright.PENANArarLQm8XkI
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,69Please respect copyright.PENANAXhZGBf2kiK
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,69Please respect copyright.PENANADPu4avNSCS
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,69Please respect copyright.PENANA8OH5bOzZsD
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,69Please respect copyright.PENANA3vcXFNFnVm
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,69Please respect copyright.PENANA0seNIXGnxF
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,69Please respect copyright.PENANAGhXBTlL5GT
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?69Please respect copyright.PENANAH939SS7VQK
69Please respect copyright.PENANA68sux0fRFx
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》69Please respect copyright.PENANAb1uudunr5e
戀愛心理,第九回。69Please respect copyright.PENANAZON0OUNjKk