
116Please respect copyright.PENANAzTAKDm5ilz
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,116Please respect copyright.PENANAKk9KPFoadP
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。116Please respect copyright.PENANA1hPdaiyHbZ
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,116Please respect copyright.PENANAHtNGyZuypb
利用大約45分鐘的時間,116Please respect copyright.PENANAXNx3jkGIQq
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,116Please respect copyright.PENANAupjED5t1XY
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。116Please respect copyright.PENANAfMDt13BqYr
這36條問題分為三組,116Please respect copyright.PENANA9bsEZXC4qX
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;116Please respect copyright.PENANACcDxKGRKPc
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,116Please respect copyright.PENANAAz2ocYM3ax
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。116Please respect copyright.PENANApheMSVNuUn
116Please respect copyright.PENANA87lLIFT1IC
事實上,116Please respect copyright.PENANA0nQ18dHgFJ
出題的人很有機心,116Please respect copyright.PENANAoDUmuiFJAx
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,116Please respect copyright.PENANAqAmoxyVxoK
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,116Please respect copyright.PENANA4n0aEdBB8u
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。116Please respect copyright.PENANAEenqO3eI5P
116Please respect copyright.PENANAJLnFIGYEbs
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。116Please respect copyright.PENANA5K2cDtZ95K
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:116Please respect copyright.PENANAUvfuQLYIxZ
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,116Please respect copyright.PENANAbqQ9gGANrB
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。116Please respect copyright.PENANAN8RNawEfFG
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,116Please respect copyright.PENANAPLv5X9PntS
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。116Please respect copyright.PENANA8vytxeepI5
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,116Please respect copyright.PENANAHPwZEniC7W
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:116Please respect copyright.PENANA5UQBjD4agm
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出116Please respect copyright.PENANAD7hx4sZJY9
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點116Please respect copyright.PENANANFHhJpfFuj
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解116Please respect copyright.PENANAURdiqT4vcz
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,116Please respect copyright.PENANAule8NbXzar
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,116Please respect copyright.PENANA5vEyfYY7EH
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,116Please respect copyright.PENANAtn2kuHlNbh
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,116Please respect copyright.PENANAYS69UjP7Lk
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,116Please respect copyright.PENANAV867FKEeSB
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,116Please respect copyright.PENANAM7lIjnauub
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?116Please respect copyright.PENANAtBOt6xSdUH
116Please respect copyright.PENANAqlo5Q2fnFY
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》116Please respect copyright.PENANAYTzFn7mT6u
戀愛心理,第九回。116Please respect copyright.PENANAQwlN8NoMfO