
103Please respect copyright.PENANAeagiw8skoG
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,103Please respect copyright.PENANAHJdLiyNioD
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。103Please respect copyright.PENANAud5mGy1sYl
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,103Please respect copyright.PENANAr5CCbhKTAm
利用大約45分鐘的時間,103Please respect copyright.PENANAKXfTKf5JZN
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,103Please respect copyright.PENANAoynBDZiXTh
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。103Please respect copyright.PENANAlxxCcL3pfR
這36條問題分為三組,103Please respect copyright.PENANANt7ltLOc2u
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;103Please respect copyright.PENANA9kZG3ws0ok
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,103Please respect copyright.PENANAC6KWTZUvYS
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。103Please respect copyright.PENANAjYwqQvHePs
103Please respect copyright.PENANARCKkJIV1zn
事實上,103Please respect copyright.PENANAB6htLwDjHn
出題的人很有機心,103Please respect copyright.PENANAgwMdSXGU0r
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,103Please respect copyright.PENANA4k40S2Msmp
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,103Please respect copyright.PENANAeTtC1v3fer
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。103Please respect copyright.PENANAEF8kQkB19T
103Please respect copyright.PENANAtrn5jO1eiV
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。103Please respect copyright.PENANA5luLXhMgA1
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:103Please respect copyright.PENANAz4eNtBIU1m
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,103Please respect copyright.PENANAJycglk2Hwr
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。103Please respect copyright.PENANABpb7lXXx21
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,103Please respect copyright.PENANAEieeNQyNAM
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。103Please respect copyright.PENANAGbPJhHsWiB
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,103Please respect copyright.PENANAynwZGcvpP6
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:103Please respect copyright.PENANAU7ahgVccYi
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出103Please respect copyright.PENANABWwlutHnlr
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點103Please respect copyright.PENANA6qJBCdjMbZ
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解103Please respect copyright.PENANA5oIViQKemD
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,103Please respect copyright.PENANAXjyfnPu15Y
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,103Please respect copyright.PENANAcsHt4kGNkl
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,103Please respect copyright.PENANAgpcC4P2zjF
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,103Please respect copyright.PENANARrFgwM1k0u
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,103Please respect copyright.PENANAiE59De3RdT
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,103Please respect copyright.PENANAURuIqx3Y5l
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?103Please respect copyright.PENANAbay7aqouUo
103Please respect copyright.PENANAFiHI6TulOp
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》103Please respect copyright.PENANAPLSMLMak0l
戀愛心理,第九回。103Please respect copyright.PENANAkg26nhiKG9