
68Please respect copyright.PENANAOK6g8k71lm
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,68Please respect copyright.PENANA0DaerVJZCu
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。68Please respect copyright.PENANABtzq7gQJ99
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,68Please respect copyright.PENANAUt1Fd7Ix5h
利用大約45分鐘的時間,68Please respect copyright.PENANAWOyCWzqDYc
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,68Please respect copyright.PENANAz1xVWzwm8C
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。68Please respect copyright.PENANAqY3X8BLJjg
這36條問題分為三組,68Please respect copyright.PENANACh3UlAKNvi
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;68Please respect copyright.PENANAYpQGfdnYA8
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,68Please respect copyright.PENANAk9QQW3NSCX
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。68Please respect copyright.PENANAJ55TDNZhtY
68Please respect copyright.PENANATpX0MDuUu4
事實上,68Please respect copyright.PENANA61FgUfv2HL
出題的人很有機心,68Please respect copyright.PENANAZNFKk4eU5L
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,68Please respect copyright.PENANAeVYlvoSKXj
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,68Please respect copyright.PENANAPlhNfnao3O
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。68Please respect copyright.PENANANbwwP1i0Q5
68Please respect copyright.PENANAlpN1uwTpoX
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。68Please respect copyright.PENANA4QHtfgWpgH
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:68Please respect copyright.PENANANEzRl3KRYe
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,68Please respect copyright.PENANAOcwaGuwmyG
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。68Please respect copyright.PENANA0shkCMcBeQ
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,68Please respect copyright.PENANAFGER1wv2YJ
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。68Please respect copyright.PENANAuI6S0wndR3
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,68Please respect copyright.PENANA0KvJsB4dTy
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:68Please respect copyright.PENANAAYxwbkvzU8
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出68Please respect copyright.PENANASjVuXDBkgX
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點68Please respect copyright.PENANA8P8HlGEIpn
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解68Please respect copyright.PENANA1OhF7G1L7G
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,68Please respect copyright.PENANAiLf8sITMsY
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,68Please respect copyright.PENANAdNaZbWL0rR
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,68Please respect copyright.PENANAEfC3vsMkWb
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,68Please respect copyright.PENANA1ZNT5a3pLe
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,68Please respect copyright.PENANASVIDZbQg18
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,68Please respect copyright.PENANAwS0pCUmKnk
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?68Please respect copyright.PENANA0SWsXMnjkv
68Please respect copyright.PENANAVDTUeryuRv
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》68Please respect copyright.PENANAoooJQEuc6J
戀愛心理,第九回。68Please respect copyright.PENANAGkbtswvB5T