
117Please respect copyright.PENANAbVwc4C4CQl
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,117Please respect copyright.PENANADJdPTUzaDF
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。117Please respect copyright.PENANAbqF3ZiH1vS
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,117Please respect copyright.PENANANMpn1kOp3h
利用大約45分鐘的時間,117Please respect copyright.PENANAmnoXYU7xif
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,117Please respect copyright.PENANARMeZBbpQ0M
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。117Please respect copyright.PENANAUtv1AhiimJ
這36條問題分為三組,117Please respect copyright.PENANAZqPQ0bBUIa
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;117Please respect copyright.PENANAgPEf31wsER
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,117Please respect copyright.PENANAUIR8IPEVmp
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。117Please respect copyright.PENANAGOE6JHMdub
117Please respect copyright.PENANA0ywA9pxIfo
事實上,117Please respect copyright.PENANAGWm1r2Qb0m
出題的人很有機心,117Please respect copyright.PENANAAfLJgmkFD7
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,117Please respect copyright.PENANAzcPVG62ssh
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,117Please respect copyright.PENANAMVYC3CZuUw
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。117Please respect copyright.PENANAsXAbObcLdg
117Please respect copyright.PENANAlT6DCNVNHb
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。117Please respect copyright.PENANAZQ553f0a0s
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:117Please respect copyright.PENANAd6hrjf5Jd5
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,117Please respect copyright.PENANA0XMXNLWrGL
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。117Please respect copyright.PENANACZKU53z6wT
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,117Please respect copyright.PENANAOkIs6eCVWc
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。117Please respect copyright.PENANAP9rLnlrFwc
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,117Please respect copyright.PENANA9Q7WLQdGNG
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:117Please respect copyright.PENANApDaRhDzoq3
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出117Please respect copyright.PENANAoC1qwcQvH6
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點117Please respect copyright.PENANA00EGroZHWc
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解117Please respect copyright.PENANAl2rC3ezcpP
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,117Please respect copyright.PENANACDE1kYufy7
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,117Please respect copyright.PENANAcOXr69pr7j
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,117Please respect copyright.PENANA0pawXaVOQv
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,117Please respect copyright.PENANAti0krcoB3L
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,117Please respect copyright.PENANA58Ju7IHGi3
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,117Please respect copyright.PENANAInDIpg4Fyw
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?117Please respect copyright.PENANAD2PJq6mHrC
117Please respect copyright.PENANAa5tSP0tTnA
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》117Please respect copyright.PENANAZMnEl25GZV
戀愛心理,第九回。117Please respect copyright.PENANA01ODvOsBnh