If J is well aware of your feelings and you have nothing but him holding you back, then it's him who has to choose to either listen to his mother or be with you and depending on the type of person he's, if he cannot choose, you either let go or help him through it and make it work out to a relationship. Of course you have more choices than the ones I gave you, but I’m just giving an opinion based on the information you gave me and my past experiences.
Of course you have more choices than the ones I gave you, but I’m just giving an opinion based on the information you gave me and my past experiences.