I identify as she/they, and that’s because I’m comfortable with being referred to as both “she” and “they.” For me, there’s no preference; they both work interchangeably. There are some times when I do prefer one more than the other, but again, that’s just my experience and reasoning; others may have different preferences or reasons.
They/them can be both plural and singular, and can be used to refer to multiple people or one person. It doesn’t mean you identify as two people; you’re still one person. (Identifying as two people is an issue separate from pronouns altogether; it honestly sounds like something more related to a personality condition but I’m not an expert in that field at all.) EX; “someone dropped their wallet” is still gramatically correct. You use singular they all the time in everyday speech, you just don’t notice it.
(Another example) “Oh, a friend’s coming over? What time are they visiting?”
It’s kinda like the same thing with the pronoun “you.” People don’t notice it, but “you” is both singular and plural, and the helping verbs attached to it are the exact same as the ones attached to the pronoun “they.” More info: (https://www.scu.edu/media/offices/provost/writing-center/resources/Tips-Singular-Pronoun-They.pdf) if someone asks you to call them they, then I guess you should. If it makes them more comfortable, then just use it.
She/they and he/they are a bit harder to explain; some people are OK with you choosing one and others might like mixing them up at times. Depends on the person tbh; guess you’d just have to ask. I don’t use those pronouns so I’m going off what I’ve heard. Pronouns are also what someone would just like to be referred to as; sometimes they could identify as something different, so you can’t generalize everybody who uses those pronouns as one identity.
EX; “someone dropped their wallet” is still gramatically correct. You use singular they all the time in everyday speech, you just don’t notice it.
(Another example) “Oh, a friend’s coming over? What time are they visiting?”
It’s kinda like the same thing with the pronoun “you.” People don’t notice it, but “you” is both singular and plural, and the helping verbs attached to it are the exact same as the ones attached to the pronoun “they.”
More info: (https://www.scu.edu/media/offices/provost/writing-center/resources/Tips-Singular-Pronoun-They.pdf)
if someone asks you to call them they, then I guess you should. If it makes them more comfortable, then just use it.
She/they and he/they are a bit harder to explain; some people are OK with you choosing one and others might like mixing them up at times. Depends on the person tbh; guess you’d just have to ask. I don’t use those pronouns so I’m going off what I’ve heard. Pronouns are also what someone would just like to be referred to as; sometimes they could identify as something different, so you can’t generalize everybody who uses those pronouns as one identity.