Me too 😭

It did happen in 8th grade. Don't worry, I got out of that very bad relationship. And honestly, he was a little messed up. His parents were very abusive and he had a traumatic experience when he was very young. I'm sure that had something to with it, not to mention having his grandparents raise him. I'm sure he has some type of attachment issues, which is why he wanted to marry me and be with him forever. Then, he moved towns at the end of the year and I didn't see him for a year. Until last year during our job opportunities field trip where schools from all around the county went to the same places depending on your career path. And he was on the same career path as mine. Of course, people from my catholic school constantly reminded me that he was there, and I learned that he has a new girlfriend. Honestly I hope she doesn't fall into the same trap as I did. 

@ItsAmelia, Yeah people like that just need to be left alone to come to terms with how fucked up they are in the head. I know all about people like that all too much. Also kids that age shouldn't be in relationships. Slow down. 

@Bengolong, I know. It was way too fast for him to be planning on marrying me, and I just kept feeling like this wasn't right, but he kept pushing. But I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I stayed. One thing I didn't mention in here is that he also threatened to kill himself if I left him after this happened, and so I just felt so guilty that I couldn't leave. I think what people don't understand when people are manipulated and in a toxic relationship is how they can guilt trip and even threaten you if you leave. You feel like there's no escape so you're just trapped in this bad relationship while they say they'll kill you and then themselves. 

@ItsAmelia, Wait he threatened to kill you?

@Bengolong, Once. Most of the time it was just him saying that he'd kill himself. Yeah, 8th grade was a dark year. Glad he doesn't live here anymore and I worry for his current girlfriend. 

@ItsAmelia,Nah that's fucking evil. The only kind of man that says that to their woman is not a man at all. They're a sniffling coward who takes their frustrations out on those weaker than him. Genuine piece of shit. I hope he does say that to his current girlfriend. So she can go tell her male friends so they can come to him and let him know what it feels like to have your life threatened. 

@ItsAmelia, oh my gosh, I am so sorry this happened to you, that is just messed up and horrible. 
A similar situation did happen to me before, though we weren't together. I had a close guy friend with severe depression. I told him to get professional help, but after 4 years he still never did. I told him I was moving away to a diff state and he told me to never leave him or else he'd kill himself. He'd literally talk about getting his dad's gun and everything, which scared the hell out of me.

Anyway so sorry for that rant, but I really hope you find someone one day. 💗 

@Julia Hope,  I'm sorry that happened to you as well. 

@ItsAmelia, Yeah, it's just messed up.