
86Please respect copyright.PENANAaBtRtAj8r3
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,86Please respect copyright.PENANAuAArJTsoVc
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。86Please respect copyright.PENANAABYqrdjjqB
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,86Please respect copyright.PENANAAhhg7Xw0nu
利用大約45分鐘的時間,86Please respect copyright.PENANAXU2KtFiM3f
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,86Please respect copyright.PENANAzvaexTQBAv
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。86Please respect copyright.PENANA9PFrPAiJ0F
這36條問題分為三組,86Please respect copyright.PENANA2NsY8xKTB3
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;86Please respect copyright.PENANAtt5ITrnvfh
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,86Please respect copyright.PENANArFkSFbjCFG
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。86Please respect copyright.PENANA3HSjVQA9Sz
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事實上,86Please respect copyright.PENANAb35YaVFW75
出題的人很有機心,86Please respect copyright.PENANANQ8V2OuF7J
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,86Please respect copyright.PENANAhGmhALWs4g
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,86Please respect copyright.PENANAeE8el5vpAv
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。86Please respect copyright.PENANALGKpN2dOYY
86Please respect copyright.PENANAfOfdR2At9i
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。86Please respect copyright.PENANASvN4oZ9Mhl
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:86Please respect copyright.PENANA1ObpDKkXqW
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,86Please respect copyright.PENANAYj47M6M0qj
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。86Please respect copyright.PENANAncXLiq54cr
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,86Please respect copyright.PENANAadMuvvQn88
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。86Please respect copyright.PENANAMGeCPQLXZm
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,86Please respect copyright.PENANAxBIZl4BJt1
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:86Please respect copyright.PENANAkNzjX1HGdA
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出86Please respect copyright.PENANAVWlF3Tp5UC
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點86Please respect copyright.PENANAdqCXdLR51t
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解86Please respect copyright.PENANAzytx0OLhJz
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,86Please respect copyright.PENANALYRDBRFkuO
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,86Please respect copyright.PENANALZ7VKeP4DV
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,86Please respect copyright.PENANAflRKan74qa
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,86Please respect copyright.PENANAHMePrLbK9x
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,86Please respect copyright.PENANA2fR2uAhJIp
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,86Please respect copyright.PENANA8E2jwCSeIi
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?86Please respect copyright.PENANAGOkK5fj52M
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》86Please respect copyright.PENANAGShPKfUpmz
戀愛心理,第九回。86Please respect copyright.PENANAy4vEGAgIjR